"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Are U A Textaholic

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Texting 101-schools In

Instant messages are different than text messages. In an I.M. conversation your primary objective is to get their digits, when texting someone it is assumed you already have their number (although it is possible to text while hiding your #). Texting primary purpose is to get to the next level when initial communication begins. If you already been on a date with the individual, texting secondary objectives are to maintain your presence, continuation of flirting, further establish rapport, and non-related social stuff (directions, need a quick Y/N answer, et).

The original purpose of text messaging was to have private one on one conversations when you were in a public place and didn’t want anyone listening in on you. The deaf community soon reaped it’s benefits, thus creating a whole new market. If you needed quick closed ended answers/questions text messaging was perfect. It’s also good to use to get people to stop screening their calls and answer their phones.

By 2010, estimations are predicting 40 billion texts with be exchanged in the U.S. alone. Long gone are the days when two people preferred to have a good, old-fashioned phone call. Texting is vastly replacing how we communicate with each other. The problem that exists is that some people are relying on TMs as a substitute for verbal conversation. We often hear of couples breaking up, fighting, arguing, MIS-INTERPRETING, being stood up, etc all via text. Lets take a look at some other downsides of text addiction.

1) COST-not all cell phones are text enabled, without a plan TMS could run from 35-50 cents per text one way. If you engage in daily text messaging you will require a plan. Plans vary from under $10 dollars for up to a 1000 texts per month or for a few more dollars unlimited. They add up pretty quick if you text more than one person. Going over your allotted texts, texting long distance, could cost you a great deal of money. People that are over their alloted text amounts can’t always text beck and get annoyed when you send them a text.

2) ADDICTION-it can become easily addicted and in no time at all, one simple conversation can add up to hundreds of TMs being exchanged. You get all wrapped up in texing so much so that you neglect other aspects in your life that require your undivided attention. Often experienced in the initial phases of seduction/relationship, communication takes on a sexual charge and simple communication goes from texting to sexting. Sending/receiving pictures cost even more money. Unless you have an unlimited plan, this new communication can be costly.

3) TIME CONSUMPTION-if your hooked on daily texting, a simple conversation (one that could take only a few minutes over the phone or face to face) now takes 60 minutes or more. Primarily due to the fact that sending texts back and forth require time. Time lags between TMs arouse suspicion, we often wonder why they are taking so long to respond and instead of giving the benefit of the doubt we jump to conclusions.

4) SUSTAIN VIRTUAL-people often prefer to text rather than to talk or meet. A text is semi-anonymous, you can say stuff you wouldn’t normally say thru a T.M. Shy people adore texting and deaf people can now communicate with others easily.You create a fantasy, intrigue and sustain the illusion of being mysterious. The obvious downside is that you may not even be speaking with the person you originally contacted. Verbal communication appears a little more realistic than remaining in soft communication.

5) LIMITATIONS-currently (2009) TMs are limited to about 240 characters and displayed on a small screen on your phone. Humor, tonality, inflections, are not easily transferred electronically. Mis-interpretations are infamous when reviewing TMs.

6) DANGER FACTOR-currently texting while driving is against the law in certain states. Texting while driving has caused more than a few accidents. In the near future, I am sure science will remedy this problem. TMs can be retrieved so you might want to watch what you send. Lots of scandals, lawsuits, divorces, terminations, investigations, caught cheating, etc have all been contributed to controversial TMs exchanged.

7) DISRUPTIVE-every time you send a text a signal tone or beep is heard. It can get annoying after awhile, especially in a movie theater, office meeting, on a date, late at night, during dinner, etc. Texting “HI”………whats up………….. are you alone”, may appear cute at first but on the other end could be interruptive if they are working or busy.

*texting is great if you have a sore throat, in dispose, dont feel like talking and there are great advantages of texting. DEAF COMMUNITY ADORES TEXTING, shy people unite TM's rock, crowded club cant hear phone ring, need directions or confirmation on an address, consider the Text Message like an electronic whisper.:up:
 
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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#8) health concerns-carpel tunnle syndrome from finger/thumb texing, eye strain from reading tiny texts, fatigue for texting constantly. Brain cancer also been link to radiation from cell phones.
 

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oh new stats out 1 out of every 3 phone calls is a text message.m almost 3 trillion text messages sent in 2008
 

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Im sure we can find the cons in a lot of things, that doesnt mean we should or that its going to change anything.
 

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textaholic

I text all the time and so far nothing is wrong besides the addiction.
I cant go a half hour without texting ((i know it sounds really bad))
Im in the 10th grade and i had my phone taken because i could'nt
wait to text so i went right ahead and texted, and if no one texts
back i find someone who will.. is this bad? am i to the point where
i should go get help? someone can message me threw my email..
[email protected] thankyou. :) :rock: :kick:
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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case in point. Theres a time to text and a time for sex.........know the difference.
 

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Texts are a ripoff. It actually costs LESS money for your phone carrier to transmit a text message than it does to make a phone call. Yet they charge you more for texting.

Not saying I don't like texting. I do, but their a ripoff and people shouldn't use them to replace actualy vocal conversation.
 

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Well for me i get unlimited texting so i text all the time and my friends do to
so i can text who ever i need to but if i don't text i get like an urge to text
and its a must or i don't know exactly what i will do because i haven't had to
exactly wait that long. :wave:
 

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DUDE DID U READ MY ARTICLES ABOUT TEXT ADDICTION..........I agree texting is way out of hand........hence the text addiction article dude.

But texting is growing by leaps and bounds.........2.5 trillion THATS TRILLION text messages sent. Is it replacing phone calls.............yes, sad but true.

So might as well learn what works and yes GET A TEXT PLAN, fighting the phone companies cause its a rip off...........dude have a conversation with your grand pappy, father, etc they will all tell u the same story from 100 years ago.......not much has changed
 

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yeah at the same time though some people cant stop.
but yeah i see what you mean by the whole thing....
it has gotten out of hand; every where you turn
((in public places)) people are texting instead of being
on the phone .. but also calling will cost too; maybe not
as much but will cost near it. idk..
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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