Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Are tomboyish girls really the ideal, or is being girly okay?

ArtVandelay

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I personally just want a hot girl that's misanthropic i.e. Winona Ryder in Heathers. Face and body of a woman, but not to the Playboy Model/Hooter's girl ideal that most guys have. A girl that's physically attractive but not a completely girly girl and has a similar cynical personality.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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potato

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It all depends on your lifestyle. I like to go camping and hiking, to ride my bicycle, to play tennis. Women who share these activities tend to be on the tomboyish side. Women who are scared of every little bug are a pain in the butt.
 

ready123

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yea hte extreme tomboys are a bizarre dating experience

most tomboyish girl I ever dated had been in more fights than most of my guy friends, would get totally insecure wearing a dress or anything feminine, and when she was horny she'd complain, "when am I gonna get some ass?"

I'd go, "wtf, you're a girl, say dck, not ass"

I prefer girly
 

Warrior74

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extreme tomboy or extreme girly....id rather have one leaning towards the girly side but not too far to the extreme.
 

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I like tomboys personally for hanging out with - tits AND a boyish thirst for fun, a winning combo!, though girly girls have their attraction.

As far as sexuality is concerned, I want someone who I can protect, not an in-your-face bullbusting ass'hole. Guys are cool but we're made for conflict. When you have a girl who's sweet and peaceful, who won't invade on your space and who doesn't mind your invasions, it's refreshing.

Still, someone kinda ambiguous, who puts up a tough face but melts under the right touch... that can be kinda fun.

Fu'ck it does anyone mind if I say I LOVE EVERYONE? XD
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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SinJester

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Ok I haven't read all the replies but I wanted to chuck my opinion in. Do these guys actually see your as girlfriend material, are any of them your boyfriends/exs/whatever? Tomboyish girls are cool to hang out with but when it comes to girls I'm attracted to I like feminine women. That's just how I am. I am actually turned off when girls to lots of un-girly things. Sure it's cool if they like football but if they burp loud and are proud of it, eh, no thanks. I see my guy friends fawning over this girl who is aparantly really hot, but then she does some manly things and I'm a little put off.

There's nothing wrong with tomboys, just please don't think you have to be one. Don't go changing yourself completely just to attract a guy, it wont work in the long term. You will find somone right for you. It's the whole opposite's attract thing. Hey maybe you should just stop hanging out with AFCs :
 

The Deacon

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ready123 said:
most tomboyish girl I ever dated had been in more fights than most of my guy friends, would get totally insecure wearing a dress or anything feminine, and when she was horny she'd complain, "when am I gonna get some ass?"

I'd go, "wtf, you're a girl, say dck, not ass"
LOL

Tomboyish girls are hot, but they have to have a kind of feminine side to them. They can compete with the boys, like in basketball, volleyball, skating, belching contests, but they have to still like chick flicks. There's got to be some balance drawn. If they don't shave under their armpits, it's over.

Tomboys also got some hot bods too. Must be all that testosterone-charged exercise or something.
 

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Schadenfreudianslip said:
My question: how much do you Don Juans really want a woman who is basically a guy with a vagina?
Not at all. While companionship is important, I prefer women that are rather feminine, to balance out my masculinity. I find traits such as a social focus, "emotional intelligence" (for lack of a better term), sensitivity (to a point), and nurturing as traditionally feminine, as attractive. Focuses on vanity and appearance are not desirable, but there's no use in complaining about it.

However, there are also other traits shared by both sexes that I find important in a girl, such as honesty, compassion, confidence, intelligence, curiosity, love for life, and adventurousness.

I need a girl who doesn't mind going out of her comfort zone and getting dirty sometimes, but I don't want one who's playing rugby, shotgunning PBR, and making out with her friends when she's drunk.

Are you okay with women who have feminine psychological characteristics, like needing foreplay, cuddles, emotional intimacy, and occasional shopping?
Sure. I think foreplay is the most interesting part of sex, and cuddling and intimacy are enjoyable if they're genuine and reciprocal (and I don't have my arms crushed).

No shopping, though. Nothing but a waste of time for me.

I mean, women should not deny their feminine psychology and identity in general just becuase it attracts men. Are tomboyish women really the perfect women?
Like most things in life, most men will seek someone on the middle ground. You need to be who you are, as you'll be honest to your suitors and more importantly, to yourself. Honesty is attractive.
 
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