"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Are there girls in your social circle?

Are there girls in your group?

  • There are always girls in my group.

    Votes: 29 51.8%
  • Every now and then girl(s) will show up then leave. I sometimes hang out with girls.

    Votes: 9 16.1%
  • My group of friends is all guys. Rarely there are girls around.

    Votes: 18 32.1%

  • Total voters
    56

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In your group of friends are there girls around? Are some of your friends girls? Or are you in a group that consists of only guys?

For me, I had nothing but guy friends. I never had chick friends and spent little time around females.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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went to an all boys school

so all guys, we all have girlfriends whom we dont really hang out with together
 

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So far the results surprise me. I was thinking that most people would have picked the third option.

Right now all there options are basically even.
 

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I think it's weird that there are people who don't have girls in their circle. Of the about 10 people in my circle at least half, if not more, are girls.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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danro said:
I think it's weird that there are people who don't have girls in their circle. Of the about 10 people in my circle at least half, if not more, are girls.
Yes it is weird. 30% of the people who voted are basically never around girls. I'm 99% certain that those people are don't hang with girls are not successful with them. Because of the nature of the board I thought the percentage would be much higher. I think it makes since that if you are never with girls it would be very hard to get one.

I made this thread because I got to spend a couple days in a group with girls. Even though I was only part of their group because of a class project it was still so much fun. I haven't laughed so much in a long time. I realized what I was missing. And I'm determined to have several chick friends when I start university in fall.
 

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Heh, one is married. The girl that I had my eye on lives with her boyfriend. The other girl, I'm not sure if she is taken or not but she isn't as fun as her friends are. I'll try and find out if she is single today.

Getting back on topic. I just realized that 30% of the guys are never around girls and back to my other poll, 30% of the guys in Sosuave are virgins. Coincidence?
 

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I'm missing the option: 'Most of the time I have girls in my group' or something.
Missing that option, I voted for option 2. Got 2 great female friends, and sometimes I lunch with a group of 7 girls or so @ school.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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My circle of friends is mostly females,its about a 7/3 ratio.It use to be even more but I had to drop some guy friends cause they was bringing me down.I rather have more female friends anyway cause you can learn a few things plus im allways getting introduce to other woman from my female friends.
 

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I don't have very many chick friends. They're either too fat/ugly or I've already slept with them and ignored them until they've hated me. Usually only my friends that are girls are the ones that have boyfriends..
 
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