"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Are there any women who like to be the dominant one?

LonesomeLoser

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I'm very passive and lazy and a bit on the timid side, and seeing my therapist years ago, I said that women wouldn't want me because I'm not a leader I'm a follower and women want a guy with the leader personality. She suggested I try to find a woman who wants to be in charge, be the dominant one. She said she had a girlfriend like that where she was the dominant one, made all the decisions etc, and the husband was just kind of passive and just went along with whatever she said and they were both happy that way. But I wouldn't want a relationship where she's like a drill sergeant or anything, but more where the roles were reversed and she was taking care of me. I'm way past the point of having any pride and being 35 it would be too hard to become what sites like sosuave describe as a "real man" and I don't care enough to try anyway. So it's either this or die alone and at 35 I've been alone half my life now so another 35 (hopefully much shorter) isn't going to kill me. If only it would, actually.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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WalkingStick

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They're out there. Start looking

I dont agree with your decision to avoid change, but you seem to have given this enough thought. I wont lecture you, I assume you've heard it before.

Good luck
 
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Hmm,I wouldn't describe myself as passive, but I have trouble seeing myself or becoming the leader. I mean, I wouldn't let anyone walk all over me,but I do believe in being a team player. I have been told I am a little too laid back,not go getting enough,but I know,there is no way in hell I would have some woman walk all over me or boss me around or expect me to put up with her ****. There is one girl at work,I would say a definite 8,and yeah,every guy wants to bang her. She's got a nice bod,decent face,and a sweet rounded ass. Sometimes she is ok to deal with,sometimes she acts like miss thang. **** that.
 

WC2

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Your therapist gives you good advice. There are such things called poles in men and women.

Think of it like the north and south pole.

One pole is Masculine and the other is Feminine. All of us can be placed between or on those poles.

In your case, you're more towards the feminine. You're passive, not big on confrontation, and you aren't really a leader in your own right.

Men and women can fall in all places between these poles. What your sex is doesn't matter. Just because you fall towards the feminine, doesn't mean your gay. It usually has to do with how you've been raised or experiences early in life.

It's said that one pole attracts the opposite pole. A feminine woman will be attracted by a masculine man. A masculine woman will be attracted by a feminine man.

This rule doesn't always hold true, but it does more often than not.

It's really up to you. If you want a masculine woman ordering you around all your life and making the decisions in your relationship, that's your priority. Be warned however, SHE controls the relationship. SHE will end the relationship if she wants to. You have no control over this. SHE will cheat on you if she chooses to and guarantee me you will have no say in this.

So the question begs.

Do you want to start being a man?

Do you want to improve yourself and attract women that you can have control over?

In my eyes, the obvious answer is yes.

If you're young, there's definitely room to improve and change yourself. If you're old, **** there's still room.

It's really your call. What do you want to be? Do you want to sit in the background like a house wife or challenge yourself everyday in life like a man?
 

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Your therapist gives you good advice. There are such things called poles in men and women.

Think of it like the north and south pole.

One pole is Masculine and the other is Feminine. All of us can be placed between or on those poles.

In your case, you're more towards the feminine. You're passive, not big on confrontation, and you aren't really a leader in your own right.

Men and women can fall in all places between these poles. What your sex is doesn't matter. Just because you fall towards the feminine, doesn't mean your gay. It usually has to do with how you've been raised or experiences early in life.

It's said that one pole attracts the opposite pole. A feminine woman will be attracted by a masculine man. A masculine woman will be attracted by a feminine man.

This rule doesn't always hold true, but it does more often than not.

It's really up to you. If you want a masculine woman ordering you around all your life and making the decisions in your relationship, that's your priority. Be warned however, SHE controls the relationship. SHE will end the relationship if she wants to. You have no control over this. SHE will cheat on you if she chooses to and guarantee me you will have no say in this.

So the question begs.

Do you want to start being a man?

Do you want to improve yourself and attract women that you can have control over?

In my eyes, the obvious answer is yes.

If you're young, there's definitely room to improve and change yourself. If you're old, **** there's still room.

It's really your call. What do you want to be? Do you want to sit in the background like a house wife or challenge yourself everyday in life like a man?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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DJVladdy

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WC2 mentioned something about poles..

yea there is a pole, if you wanna call it that
a.k.a. BACKBONE

Grow one!
 

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LonesomeLoser said:
I'm very passive and lazy and a bit on the timid side, and seeing my therapist years ago, I said that women wouldn't want me because I'm not a leader I'm a follower and women want a guy with the leader personality. She suggested I try to find a woman who wants to be in charge, be the dominant one. She said she had a girlfriend like that where she was the dominant one, made all the decisions etc, and the husband was just kind of passive and just went along with whatever she said and they were both happy that way. But I wouldn't want a relationship where she's like a drill sergeant or anything, but more where the roles were reversed and she was taking care of me. I'm way past the point of having any pride and being 35 it would be too hard to become what sites like sosuave describe as a "real man" and I don't care enough to try anyway. So it's either this or die alone and at 35 I've been alone half my life now so another 35 (hopefully much shorter) isn't going to kill me. If only it would, actually.
Wow...... just Wow

This is without a doubt, the most depressing post I have ever read in my entire life! :cry:
 

brewbaron

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I don't think you need to be thinking about women right now. you need to focus on you and get your sh*t together. just from the way you've written the post, not to mention your user name, you clearly have some deeper issues that need taking care of. you may be 35 but you can change, you can still improve and become a better more fulfilled person. do you really want to wait out the next 35 years until death comes knocking?
 

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You can always change dude. Always. Even little things. In fact, you always start with the little things.

As for your question, yeah, MANY women like to be the dominant one in the relationship. And there's nothing wrong, to me, if your woman happens to be the one with the stronger personality and dominant one if that's the natural role that plays out and both are happy with it. As long as one isn't completely walking all over the other, then this type of role-playing is completely natural.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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