Are there any places where social circle/hometown game isn't king

[Dhoulmagus]

Girls out right refuse to meet any new people here unless introduced by friends. The ones that do are usually just being friendly. This doesn't just go for girls as well. I am scared to move to a new city because I will be lonely and everybody in this stupid country is cliquish.

 

[Mike32ct]

Yeah there is a lot of truth to the above. I'll defer to the others for tips on this one.

 

[Dhoulmagus]

Yeah there is a lot of truth to the above. I'll defer to the others for tips on this one.

Yes, college was one of the hugest disappointments in my life. People just still hang around their high school buddies. Join a fraternity and it is still cliquish within. I also gasp at the existence of backpack colleges.

 

[MtnMan]

why not work to expand your social circle. Win win for you.

 

[Dhoulmagus]

why not work to expand your social circle. Win win for you.

I try, the people willing to meet other people are pretty much in my situation. These guys don't know any girls just like I don't.

 

[MtnMan]

without having any real good advise for you, I can say that your responses just stink of "i can't". Its the wrong attitude, in most situations it can be better, you must have the right attitude. I could go on forever on ways to improve your social circle, but they would all be obvious, and if you had the right attitude you wouldn't need to ask the question in the first place. Does this make any sense at all?

 

[gravityeyelids]

it took me a long time to realize how dependent on social circle any kind of success is. It sucks because people like Mystery (as much as I like it) pound into RAFC's heads that cold approaches are the basis of game when that simply isnt true. Looking back.....i don't know if i've EVER had any real success with a girl that was completely random. When i stop and think about it, it seems like every girl i've fooled around or banged has been a friend of a friend, even girls i've taken home from the bar or a party. Especially since i've been in college for the last five years and i didnt get ANY action in high school, and college game is completely dependent on social circle. College girls straight up wont hook up with "randoms". They will make out at a party with them...but its very rare that they'll go home with them

 

[Bingo-Player]

all depends what sort of size city / country your in i guess

i have a throbbing social circle in my city but its taken about 7 years to build it helps because even when i meet a "random" chances are they will know someone i do immediately validating and progressing my game

I'm very active on twitter i would recommend starting that up if your struggling to build a circle

get it , start following people around you watching what they're views are what they're interests are sooner or later you will be able to see the bigger picture and where you can slot into it

remember Rome wasn't built in day .....