"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Are there any places where social circle/hometown game isn't king

Dhoulmagus

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Girls out right refuse to meet any new people here unless introduced by friends. The ones that do are usually just being friendly. This doesn't just go for girls as well. I am scared to move to a new city because I will be lonely and everybody in this stupid country is cliquish.
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Mike32ct said:
Yeah there is a lot of truth to the above. I'll defer to the others for tips on this one.
Yes, college was one of the hugest disappointments in my life. People just still hang around their high school buddies. Join a fraternity and it is still cliquish within. I also gasp at the existence of backpack colleges.
 

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why not work to expand your social circle. Win win for you.
 

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MtnMan said:
why not work to expand your social circle. Win win for you.
I try, the people willing to meet other people are pretty much in my situation. These guys don't know any girls just like I don't.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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without having any real good advise for you, I can say that your responses just stink of "i can't". Its the wrong attitude, in most situations it can be better, you must have the right attitude. I could go on forever on ways to improve your social circle, but they would all be obvious, and if you had the right attitude you wouldn't need to ask the question in the first place. Does this make any sense at all?
 

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it took me a long time to realize how dependent on social circle any kind of success is. It sucks because people like Mystery (as much as I like it) pound into RAFC's heads that cold approaches are the basis of game when that simply isnt true. Looking back.....i don't know if i've EVER had any real success with a girl that was completely random. When i stop and think about it, it seems like every girl i've fooled around or banged has been a friend of a friend, even girls i've taken home from the bar or a party. Especially since i've been in college for the last five years and i didnt get ANY action in high school, and college game is completely dependent on social circle. College girls straight up wont hook up with "randoms". They will make out at a party with them...but its very rare that they'll go home with them
 

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all depends what sort of size city / country your in i guess

i have a throbbing social circle in my city but its taken about 7 years to build it helps because even when i meet a "random" chances are they will know someone i do immediately validating and progressing my game

I'm very active on twitter i would recommend starting that up if your struggling to build a circle

get it , start following people around you watching what they're views are what they're interests are sooner or later you will be able to see the bigger picture and where you can slot into it

remember Rome wasn't built in day .....
 
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