Are there any good posts here on actual, definitive success in life?

[Brighty]

Hey guys, I've recently found myself in a pretty bad creative rut after an amazing year in 2010 with my writing and I've been trying to get myself out of it and back into a success mindset, but it's been difficult.

Thanks to this site, I haven't had any problems with women in almost three years (well, you always have problems with women in one way or another, but I've never had a "dry spell" since 2009), but I feel like that's only a small piece of a man's true potential. An alpha man is the kind of man who goes out there and changes the world - he doesn't just come and go through life without so much as a ripple - he is someone who leaves his mark in one way or another and leaves a legacy that goes beyond just his genetic offspring.

I know what I want out of life, I know what steps I'd most likely need to get it, but for whatever reason I have been absolutely tapped of motivation and more importantly discipline to do almost anything towards taking steps towards my life goal. I don't know how, I just find myself wasting away, wasting my potential away each day and it drives me crazy. I keep waiting for myself to get fed up with it so I'll do something to change it, but the longer I wait, the more and more it seems like I'm becoming complacent with my current state in life, and that scares the living hell out of me.

I know there are a million great threads on living life as an alpha man in the context of getting women, but are there any threads out there about living life as an alpha man in the context of living life to the fullest, being successful, and getting what you want out of life?

It's almost like now that I've finally conquered the plateau of being successful with women/being "that guy", I've immediately got my sights set on the next highest plateau, and I almost even wonder why I placed being successful with women so high up there on my values to back then.

Can anyone else relate? I'm sure as young adults aspiring to be great men this is something that I'm sure will be a topic of interest. Are there any topics like this that explain how to take steps towards living a life more poised to achieve?

 

[WhatdoyoumeanAIDS]

have you thought about the fact that the ONLY sure thing in life is that you will die one day, and there isn't a thing you can do to change that?

Also, I heard a good quote some time ago that stuck with me, and it goes something like this, "In life, you experience one of two pains: the pain of discipline, or the pain of regret. The pain of discipline weighs ounces, and the pain of regret weighs tons."

These two ideas have driven me to achieve an extremely laborious and singular goal in my professional career that has taken close to a decade to achieve, outside the world of pickups and women. I won't go into the details, but in about 4 weeks a decades worth of serious work and college/graduate school will be affirmed for me.

 

[The Experience]

So you know what you want to do in life, but can't find motivation to do it.

First, think hard about the consequences of quitting or not doing anything.

Then, think hard about the consequences of not quitting or doing everything it takes to achieve what you want to do.

Actually speak the consequences in your mind, this helps a lot.


Hope this bit helped.

 

[DonGorgon]

the key is balance... good vs bad .. up vs down in vs out... you have to force balance cause down is the natural direction if you dont..

life is changing all the time which is why your success will be here today then gone tomorrow .. you have to change with life in order to keep balance ... fact is life sucks and it gets worse as you age.. how you deal with and avoid / deny that reality is up to you

 

[PokerStar]

at one point i thought that women would be the only thing on my list left to conquer.

then i realized they should be at the bottom of the list.

 

[Brighty]

bump

 

[Someone Much cooler]

to me it means aquiring/acomlishing your goals in life in some form or another. no more or less.

 

[Chamber36]

Definitive success is something I'm a little afraid to even touch as a subject. How can it be defined?

I just want to get rich, get a hot wife, have a few children, and live in a place with a warm climate. In a big house. With a swimming pool, and a jacuzzi and a gym.
Besides that I want to be healthy, strong and flexible as long as I can.

The last goal is the one I feel I have the most control over because it's a matter of training.

In order to get success, I have to believe that all these goals are feasible and actually keep them on the horizon. I've actually been procrastinating with a few of the things I've got to be doing.

So it's good to remember what you're striving for. Thanks for reminding me OP.

 

[Brighty]

Definitive success is something I'm a little afraid to even touch as a subject. How can it be defined?

I just want to get rich, get a hot wife, have a few children, and live in a place with a warm climate. In a big house. With a swimming pool, and a jacuzzi and a gym.
Besides that I want to be healthy, strong and flexible as long as I can.

The last goal is the one I feel I have the most control over because it's a matter of training.

In order to get success, I have to believe that all these goals are feasible and actually keep them on the horizon. I've actually been procrastinating with a few of the things I've got to be doing.

So it's good to remember what you're striving for. Thanks for reminding me OP.

No problem man, glad to be of service. I guess I'm not so much looking for a (because everyone will have a different one) so much as I'm looking for exercises, practices, or life changes that help improve motivation, creativity, and promote a positive mindset for that kind of thing.

For example, some DJ journals have the exercise for beginners to go out and ask 10 people what time it is. Obviously you don't care what time it is but this is an exercise that helps improve confidence in striking up a conversation with a complete stranger and is one of the building blocks for being successful with women down the road. I'm looking for something akin to that, if that makes any sense.

 

[Brighty]

bump

 

[Brighty]

Bumping.

 

[Brighty]

Really great stuff Parad0x. Thanks for taking the time to post man, really insightful stuff.

 

[Warrior74]

http://www.allposters.com/-sp/Bruce-Lee-In-Their-Words-Posters_i6010290_.htm

 

[Vice]

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