"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Are the differences between a female 5/10 & 6/10 subtle to you, or quite large jump in attractiveness?

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I would say they are subtle. Of these 3 High School girls, the far left is a 6/10 = a bit above average, the other two are 5's/average looking girls. The 6 has longer hair, more feminine face and nicer eyes, better skull shape, slightly prettier.

 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Cheeky_James

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Yknow. I really do wonder about this rating system business. I can’t really fathom how guys differentiate between one point ,say 5 and the next 6 on a 1-10 scale.
Plus there is so much variation in taste - the rating is gonna be subjectively biased. by the eye of the beholder.
Only a computer could give an ‘accurate’ ,objective 1-10 rating -based on facial ratio measurements and body proportions etc

Btw I see WheatWaffles charges to rate looks as a service. Does he use his own proprietary software or some sh1t.. or just his opinion..?
How does he do that…
 

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The way I rate a 6 is cute. A 5 is a girl I might think about, but when it comes right down to it, I'll be "Nah". 1-4s are out of the question. So only 6 and above are doable.

Everyone rates a little differently, I guess.
 

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I would say they are subtle. Of these 3 High School girls, the far left is a 6/10 = a bit above average, the other two are 5's/average looking girls. The 6 has longer hair, more feminine face and nicer eyes, better skull shape, slightly prettier.

I would have chosen a different picture because these look like underage schoolgirls to me.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I don't really use the numerical grading scheme, it's a bit daft really...but...if I had to...

I would say a 6 is where strong interest can be likely if she is particularly your type. A 5 is where you'd still be 50/50 even if she was your type.
 
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