Are strip clubs good means of relieving 'gremlins'?

[sambwoy]

As a 25 y o virgin who has since aged 18-present has been confused about dating and relationships with poor body image and confused about what women want in a man, my mind is full of things a day that I lose focus and concentration in work and daily life.

Can a strip/gentleman's club relieve me of all the sexual urge problems? Now I have looked around at reviews of clubs like Spearmint Rhino, and found that many guys who go to those things end up out of pocket, but I just wanted some perspective. Is it still worth it?

 

[irocknike23]

Depends...its a good place to celebrate someones b-day or bachelor party....

But if you are a virgin and have had almost no success with women then you will more than likely come out of there with an empty wallet. Because you will see all these 10's with banging bodies coming up to you and making you feel all special which you probably wont be able to resist spending money on them

 

[sambwoy]

Because you will see all these 10's with banging bodies coming up to you and making you feel all special which you probably wont be able to resist spending money on them

Yeah I know And how often does that happen? (asking rhetorically). Telling by what has been put on this site already lots of guys tell the cold hard truth. If a woman doesn't find you attractive you can't win. You can't work around it- it's not like other areas of life. I'm left with the monotony of work and career-finding, jumping through hoops for society, without the little things that make it more tolerable.

 

[bigneil]

Yes. Do it, but with two who you really like. With one you might get attached. Ask them for advice on how to be more attractive. They'll tell you.

 

[Bible_Belt]

There are a lot of sexually frustrated women out there. But you're not going to meet them at a strip club.

 

[bigneil]

They are equally frustrated if not more than regular (hot, crazy) women. Maybe not sexually. Try massaging them for proof. Besides, why would you want a sexually frustrated woman?

 

[Bible_Belt]

A 25 y/o virgin in a strip bar is a sheep among wolves. I don't think anything he learns will be helpful or positive. I like strip bars for what they are, but I don't think it would be helpful here.

why would you want a sexually frustrated woman?

Because they're horny. And easy. And grateful for attention. Women like that are a good way to get laid and get the V-card issue out of the way.

 

[sageproduct]

Yeah don't go to a strip club expecting to get laid. Even a lap dance will not help your issues with sexuality.

Speaking as a 20 year old virgin who may or may not have experience in the above...

 

[sambwoy]

I just want some a bit of physical intimacy without the sex. I have usually been the orbiter type in a social situation, maybe having aspergers cause me to lack understanding of socialising and relationships. I see life as one disappointment after another, tired of over-thinking life and caring about other people's opinions.

I get the confidence/positive/tough love anecdotes all the time, because I am a young man, and I get that a lot from my elders, but its not realistic. I could be wrong but perhaps in their day society was not so media-savvy, and television/film-makers/showbiz magazines who make us insecure were not w@nkers, which is why so many today have unrealistic expectations in who they date.

The reverse is closer to real in that you need female attention to be confident.

 

[JohnChops]

I just want some a bit of physical intimacy without the sex. I have usually been the orbiter type in a social situation, maybe having aspergers cause me to lack understanding of socialising and relationships. I see life as one disappointment after another, tired of over-thinking life and caring about other people's opinions.

I get the confidence/positive/tough love anecdotes all the time, because I am a young man, and I get that a lot from my elders, but its not realistic. I could be wrong but perhaps in their day society was not so media-savvy, and television/film-makers/showbiz magazines who make us insecure were not w@nkers, which is why so many today have unrealistic expectations in who they date.

The reverse is closer to real in that you need female attention to be confident.

That bold is an outward locus. You are wanting to gain confidence from an outside source because you lack self confidence just by yourself. What happens when all the women you see stop speaking to you? Then your confidence seizes to exists because you were dependent on women for confidence.

If you build yourself from the ground up you will gian confidence in all areas of life and then women will notice you walk different, present yourself differently, and think highly of yourself (i.e. projecting high value). They pick up on this and you don't have to do a damn thing except say "Hi". They already know you are a confident guy, but reaching the point of having self confidence is what you want to strive for.

 

[Mike32ct]

I only went to strip clubs because I was bored.

It didnt do anything for me. I can't even get hard from a lap dance. It's so fake and tryhard.

 

[Who Dares Win]

The problem with having a V-card is not libido, but the need for confirmation and validation.

There is no quick fix except improve yourself and find yourself around available women, biblebelt advice is solid but sexually frustrated women nowadays are really hard to find among decent looking ones.

Op, you either change yourself or change the setting.