"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Are sh@t tests a good thing?

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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PapiChulo

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No they aren't IOIs, Mr. Dear Chump, nor they are good when in excess or deliberate
 

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PapiChulo said:
No they aren't IOIs, Mr. Dear Chump, nor they are good when in excess or deliberate
You're wrong. They are good, because they mean she's interested. Just read that somewhere - and agree with it.

just google what's a **** test
 

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BAD...

Yes it means they are interested.

But it means their minds are sh!t...don't deal with chicks whose minds are sh!t

Ask yourself would Brad Pitt be sh1t-tested?

(course you're prob not B Pitt:)
 

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They aren't IOIs at all, but a prerequisite to any kind of interest. If you are dealing with a woman trying to test you past the initial stage, she is more than likely looking for something to justify rejecting you, and so that she can make herself feel better about it anyway. A truly interested women won't test the crap out of you. Furthermore, the only IOI you need is a concret Yes to a date invite and her following through it. The only use out of it is that you can employ humor, witt and attitude to increase her interest in response. See, it is hardly an IOI at all. I guess it is better than nothing at all. Use it to your advantage.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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You're the chump for having to ask the question, but anyways...

It's a good thing, as you said.. She's probably interested in you if she's laying out a sh1t test. Another reason why it's good is it's going to weed out the males that she does not desire.. Leaving you (or in this case, not you because you are not a don juan for asking the question in the first place, but also assuming you are not a chump when you indeed are..) the victor.
 

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Alex DeLarge said:
You're the chump for having to ask the question, but anyways...

It's a good thing, as you said.. She's probably interested in you if she's laying out a sh1t test. Another reason why it's good is it's going to weed out the males that she does not desire.. Leaving you (or in this case, not you because you are not a don juan for asking the question in the first place, but also assuming you are not a chump when you indeed are..) the victor.
Like who cares. But glad to see I'm getting someone's panties in a bunch lol
 

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Good for you, meaning your game is working. Good attitude to have as well.
 

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A wise man once said,
The shït test — primarily used by women, as so few menshït test women — is much maligned by aspiring seducers and beta chumps. Players have devised countless tactics for recognizing and neutralizing shït tests so that they are not blown out of approaches. But what if I told you shït testing from women is ESSENTIAL to building attraction with them? That, in fact, a pickup attempt that is missing any shït testing from the girl is likely to fail.

Think of shït tests as female indicators of interest. A girl who is sweet and nice and cordial with you is a girl who doesn’t find you charismatic enough to sleep with. To her, you are just another pleasant herb in a sea of herbs who deserves nothing more than her tritest courtesies. Only a fledgling sexual attraction or curiosity can inspire a girl to shït test you, and once she is shït testing and experiencing the thrill of your acumen at passing her shït tests, her attraction begins to liquefy her panties.

Knowing this, you should regard shït tests as a peculiarly female predilection you WANT to provoke, rather than an annoyance you want to avoid. Once you start a girl shït testing, the end game of sex will materialize on the not-too-distant time horizon. It’s yours to lose once she begins her attempts to push your buttons.

Naturally, you may wonder how the average man is supposed to provoke a girl into shït testing him. There are many ways to do this, including outrageous dress, ****y demeanor, flashy jewelry, douchey accoutrements, offensive comments, jealousy plotlines, stupefying openers (see: Horse Girl) and mixed set merges. A simple way to goad a shït test is to be an average-looking guy hitting on a hot babe. After her surprise wears off (she’s not used to it), her instinct will be to test the average-looking guy for traces of the alphaness that he tacitly implies with his bold, uncommon approach. And so for her, because in general a man’s looks don’t factor as much in a woman’s measure of his sex appeal, it becomes of paramount urgency that she tease out his alpha status by fücking with his frame and subconsciously analyzing his reaction.

If you pass her tests, she opens the doors for you to move on to the next phase of her seduction.

http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2011/09/07/goading-girls-into-testing-you
 

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Good stuff Deep Dish, best definition of a shiit test I've ever read.

Since I'm here, might as well share how knowing what a shiit test is has improved my game. Before I was clear what it was, I had no f-ing clue I was being tested, ob viously. Like for example. One shiit test I almost always get is "Are you here picking up women?" or "Do you always come up to [ none of your beez wax ] to pick up women?" Not knowing wtf it was, I would explain myself or lie so not to seem like a womanizer. I would say, "No, just here checking out some shoes. Thought I said hello." Now I just go, "No, not always. Just today." Or whatever comes to mind that doesn't give in to her test.

women are so cute in the ways they test us. That's for sure. Another thing I helpful is not getting mad at yourself (or the girl) when YOU fail her test. They might be creatures of subtly (not direct for shiit), but it isn't her fault if you mess it up with her. At least for me, this has been hard. Dealing with rejection that is. It's so easy to give in to self pity or start crying about why you suck with women or why they keep rejecting you. It's harder to keep your cool and move on. Take the challenge. Pass it. Get more numbers from INTERESTED women. That's what I've learned.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I've had positive results after passing her tests

I've trained myself to recognize them and I can easily deflect them instead of getting all linear and logical and explaining myself or whatever
 
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