Originally posted by jakethasnake
I'm asking because I've never done this before with a girl. Let's assume that both you and the girl are into a certain band, and their performing a small intimate acoustic set, in a cafe setting (as opposed to the usual stadium rock setting).
The doors open two hours before, and ticketholders will be able to enter and mingle before the show starts. Do you think that this intimate setting with a famous band playing acoustic songs would be a good idea? It sounds really great to me, but I wanted to hear some opinions.
i've done this several times and have never regretted it. perfect example, right on target for ya'...
recently on a second date with this chick (she set it up entirely--nice), we went to a dinner style jazz club in Hollywood,
http://www.catalinajazzclub.com, with famous Jimmy Smith on the docket.
there was an early session at 8:00 and a later session at 10:30. doors opened at 7:00 for those that wanted dinner before the music started (you could also get dinner during the show). it was one big room, about 75x75 sq ft, with the stage, like 5 feet from the first row of tables.
usually the tables are the small cafe style tables and all of the chairs are facing the stage for obvious reasons (e.g. you sit right next to each other at the table instead of across from each other). pretty nice intimate set up, especially for the forthcoming kino action.
we were planning on going somewhere else after the first set. but we had the dinner, listened to the first set, had great convo, the music was just loud enough so that you could talk.
after the first set, we decided to stay for the second set. good decision, since the second set they usually start rockin and everyone is loosin'in up. the music was just a little bit louder, so now you'll have to speak into each other's ear. then the kino starts big time.
this particular date was fantastic fun!
on our third date (that I set up since she wasn't familar with blues), we went to BB King's Blues Club. basically the same setting. but blues is a bit louder, so we sat in the back.
this one was better! a bit less in intimacy and kino, but the fun factor was killer, especially for her. she was astonished by the vibe. blues clubs are killa and i scored some major points for trumping her jazz thing. ha!
for jazz or blues, go for the old timers. especially blues, cuz there's nothing like seeing a 75 year old legend rockin' the house down.
hell yeah, it's a good idea.
10 TIPS FOR THE JAZZ/BLUES CLUBS:
TIP #1: check out the club before hand and see if it's initmate or appropriate for your intentions--just have fun or kino or ???.
TIP #2: usually in these types of clubs, the dinner is way over priced and the food sucks. do it anyways though, for the below reasons.
TIP #3: definitely bring your own wine--they'll kill you even more than a restaurant. but call and ask FIRST if they allow it, most do. there's absolutely nothing wrong or "cheap" in bringing your own vino. in fact, you come out sosuave. plus you get exactly what you want. if your chick thinks you're cheap because of this, she's a Philistine, plain and simple.
they'll probably charge you a big time corking fee (ours was 20 fvcking bucks! at Catalina vs the standard 10). but still the wine i brought, Turnbul Cab 97, was like $200 a bottle there. i bought a case of that shiat a couple of years ago for $30 a bottle. street price is about $75.
oh yeah, find out what she likes, white or red (or neither!). most younger chicks have no concept of good wine, or like white.
TIP #4: have a backup bottle IN THE CAR! don't walk in there with two bottles of wine, you'll look like a friggin fool, to her because she'll think you want to get drunk, and to everyone else in the place. if you bring white, tell the host RIGHT AWAY to CHILL IT!!! der. on the second bottle, if it gets to it, well...??? a way around this is to get there before she does and put both in their fridge.
TIP #4a: 3 & 4 assumes you know something about wine. you can get a good bottle of grape juice for 20-30 bucks.
if you need advisement on this, i'll be happy oblige.
TIP #5: make sure it's acoustic. if it's not, it'll ruin the vibe.
TIP #6: get there early. when we got there, only a few people were there. this way, you can pick out the best table.
TIP #7: don't sit in the first row of tables. the second or third is usually about right. anyway, sit about 20ish feet away fromthe stage and off-center, on one of the outside isles if it's set up that way.
TIP #8: if there are booths, in addition to the cafe style seating. first set, at the cafe tables. second set, move over to a booth. we were making out a bit and no one cared.
TIP #9: go on a weeknight. weekends are usually too crowded and you lose the intimacy.
TIP #10: usually after the second set, people just leave. hang out for a while. we were the last ones to leave and we got to chat with the band, and with Pat O'Brian, the host on Access Hollywood, or some shiat like that.
at Catalina, we were there from 7:00 - 12:00am. yes, five hours! had a rockin' ole time. she told me, that night, it was the best date she ever had. then i trumped her ass with BB's. HA!
definitely try it!
