"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Are my morals too high??

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What's up guys? Look, I'm not trying to be self-righteous, and I know we all want to sleep with a lot of woman, and I don't have any problems doing so, I've been told by a lot of people I'm good looking, and been approached to model. But for the life of me I just can't "mack" game on a a typical HB girl, not for the reason you think though. Seeing some "HB9" and not having a connection with her... it makes me feel guilty of persuing dating her. In my mind it appears I'd just be in it for the sex, and I just can't do it. The thought of playing with a girls mind just for sex when I don't even care about her just makes me feel wrong. I want to sleep with loads of woman, and in theory it sounds great. But going through the trouble of dating, dining, her becoming attached to you, just seems not worth the trouble and I feel bad. I've slept with 2 beautful woman before, but only 2 because I felt a strong connection with them. I'm holding myself back from sleeping with a lot of chicks. Any ideas on how to change my mindset to not feeling guilty if I sleep with a girl I don't have feelings for?

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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Just relax. See it as just abit fun. When you go out and you hit off with a chick. You dont have to wait until you hear wedding bells before you shag her. Your right....its your mindset.

Your judging girls far to quickly. Your saying well i met her and no sparks flew so thats it cut loose.


When i meet girls I put them threw a "trail period". Normally about 2-3 weeks depending on how often i see them. I will sleep with them during this period. I dont think you can know if you like a girl until you have been intermate with her and spent some time with her. After the trail period if still no sparks are flying then i cut loose.

One of my ex's....when i met her i was like "Worth a shag". I went out with her after a "trail period" and it turned out she was amazing. I didnt see that when i first met her. Only by spending more time around her and getting to know her.

Plus there is nothing wrong with casual sex and a little bit of fun. Aslong as your straight with her it wont conflict with your morals.

Your morals are too high. You can have morals and still get laid...
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I'm also dealing with similar issues as stated in the first post...
I too once had a great mental connection with a few differnt women and the sex was 10 times better then just throwing game on some girl and beating. Although it's still better than jacking off. LOL!!!!!! Hmmmm I kinda wish I didn't know what sex was like with love and with out. It makes me have oneitis at times...

I'm lost too :(
 
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well, you've got to have the conviction to go increase your standing. just because you're studying DJ doesn't mean you have to sleep with them.

i guess the question to ask yourself is what do you want for yourself, and are you willing to make the changes necessary to get it?
 
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Originally posted by reyalp
well, you've got to have the conviction to go increase your standing. just because you're studying DJ doesn't mean you have to sleep with them.

i guess the question to ask yourself is what do you want for yourself, and are you willing to make the changes necessary to get it?
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True....i didnt realise. Are we talking about sleeping with HB2-4's here....If so up your standards. Only go HB 6-9
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Originally posted by Scorched
Hmmmm I kinda wish I didn't know what sex was like with love and with out. It makes me have oneitis at times...
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holy ****, you summed up what im feeling really well.

just sex is great... but it pales in comparision with sex with someone you love.
 
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