"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Are most guys these days just looking for sex or a long time girlfriend?

vagrant

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I'm just curious..
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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vagrant

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anyone else?
 

Rebound Material

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I personally always do aim for an LTR but I hardly ever make it apparent.

I weed out the girl first meaning I test her to see if she's what I consider ltr worthy: loyalty, high maturity level or class, emotionally healthy, and of course if her looks come to par(7.5+).

I also check for red flags: She's a notorious guy hopper/serial monogamist, air-headedness, slvt status, level of b!tchiness, clinginess and has issues basically...

If they don't come up to par with my requirements for an LTR, I won't completely write them off...Sad to say but I'll take whatever I could from them....yea, im gonna have to bust a pirate move and just raid her for some experience =/.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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cky

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How life rolls. After realizing trying to get in a relationship and all is just going to kill you, I'm just going to keep playing around, maybe some day there will be this perfect girl.
You'll know when you meet her if you use your brain instead of your dick and heart only. Heart and brain combined makes a pretty good mix imho. :)
 

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Its difficult to put into words for me but easy to understand. I start off with the idea of having a good time with a female. If I don't see any red flags I allow her to escalate the relationship.
 

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Why not spend youre energy thinking about other things?
 

Five To One

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I think it completely depends on where the guy is at that point in his life.

But I can also see a guy who isnt looking to get tied down suddenly become open to a relationship if he finds an amazing girl.
 

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Most people male and female are not willing to put in the work it takes to make a relationship work and they dont want to be tied to one person either... but they do want easy access to others when it is convenient.. Hence why cheating is the norm...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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dadmonson

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People who are looking for LTR mostly do it because everybody else around them is in LTRs. It is the cool thing to do I guess.
 
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