Are "Mommy Issues" For Guys Just As True As "Daddy Issues" For Girls?

[RockaRolla25]

I will start off this post with a line from the movie "Grown Ups" that came out last year with Adam Sandler, Chris Rock, and Kevin James. I thought the movie was "ehhhh" but at least I saw it on HBO instead of spenidng my money in a theater on it.

Anyway, onto the point:

There is a scene in that movie where Rob Schneider is a 40 something year old man and has his 3 daughters come to visit all of them at the house they are staying at. 2 of them are really hot and 1 is really ugly. One of his hot daughters (the white one) says to Rob Schneider (her dad who walked out on her), "My old man got me this car" and Rob Schneider says, "Old man?" and she goes "Yeah, I wish I could date guys my own age but I'm just chasing the dad who ran out on me." This line made me laugh so loud because they are using the "daddy issues" thing as something women actually ADMIT to and as a subtle joke.

This got me thinking because even though "daddy issues" are most likely a real thing, no woman would ever admit that she has them.

This term is applied to girls who grew up in a family where her parents were divorced so she never got to see her dad often, or her dad just walked out on her before she was born. As a result of this, they seek attention from men by having sex because that's the only way they feel wanted.

Now it got me thinking, how many guys have "mommy issues?" For example, if a guy grew up without a mother, don't you think this has some bearing as to why they are pick up artists? Is it possible some men on here have the same mentality as chicks with daddy issues? Do you think they have sex with all these women because their mom was never there for them and this is the only way those men can get attention from women?

As crazy as it sounds, you can usually guess just by seeing a girl's actions. If she's constantly flirting with guys and always screwing around you can almost guarantee that their father is not in their lives.

But when you see a girl who seems nice, down to earth and fun, you can almost guarantee that their fathers are involved in their lives.

Now a big kicker is that lots of men find the "nice girl next door" to be too boring just like lots of women find the "nice guy next door" to be too boring.

We say on here "most girls want a challenge" and that's why they don't go for nice guys but I think a lot of men on here want a challenge too and don't want a pushover girl either.

Throughout my life I have met crazy girls with daddy issues and nice girls who are just......nice. I can definitely say that the nice girls are way too boring and don't have much going for themselves.

The nice girl who is cute and doesn't say much is basically in the same boat as the nice guy who is "cute" to women but doesn't say much.

Now, call me crazy, but do you guys think it is possible that men with mommy issues go for girls with daddy issues?

I am sure most men won't admit they have mommy issues but most girls won't admit they have daddy issues either. So, what do you guys think?

Are mommy issues just as real as daddy issues?

 

[Alex DeLarge]

I had two friends a few years ago who grew up without their mother present in their lives, so they just have their father. These two guys that I know are complete naturals with women coming from the "Irresponsible unreliable bad boy" point of view.

-They're constantly unemployed
-They're both dropouts
-They have both been arrested multiple times
-They both seem rather sociopathic
-They both look at women like pieces of meat
-They always cheat in LTRs whenever possible.. Even if the girl he's cheating with is uglier than his steady GF.
-At the same time they both become attached to their LTR girls.

To me it seems that they have this subconcious anger toward women, viewing them as untrustworthy, and non-loyal. They never had a woman stick around in their life (mom). Also, their mother was never there so they could not see the normal social dynamics of a husband/wife relationship. They were never taught how to treat and keep a woman whether it be respectful or disrespectful. They just get them in bed, **** them then don't care after that because the relationship aspect is just not there for them, they don't pick up on it.

Every now and then they will do this with a girl who will remain "Clingy" to them, but this is just the girls showing infatuation with them.. Eventually these two buddies of mine would catch on to this romance thing and feel as though women may be capable of something else other than a svck + fvck.. lol

That's what I've noticed from them. Hell I could be wrong, but thats the way they've always acted. Social experiments and tests would be the only way to determine the hypothesis.

 

[RockaRolla25]

I had two friends a few years ago who grew up without their mother present in their lives, so they just have their father. These two guys that I know are complete naturals with women coming from the "Irresponsible unreliable bad boy" point of view.

-They're constantly unemployed
-They're both dropouts
-They have both been arrested multiple times
-They both seem rather sociopathic
-They both look at women like pieces of meat
-They always cheat in LTRs whenever possible.. Even if the girl he's cheating with is uglier than his steady GF.
-At the same time they both become attached to their LTR girls.

To me it seems that they have this subconcious anger toward women, viewing them as untrustworthy, and non-loyal. They never had a woman stick around in their life (mom). Also, their mother was never there so they could not see the normal social dynamics of a husband/wife relationship. They were never taught how to treat and keep a woman whether it be respectful or disrespectful. They just get them in bed, **** them then don't care after that because the relationship aspect is just not there for them, they don't pick up on it.

Every now and then they will do this with a girl who will remain "Clingy" to them, but this is just the girls showing infatuation with them.. Eventually these two buddies of mine would catch on to this romance thing and feel as though women may be capable of something else other than a svck + fvck.. lol

That's what I've noticed from them. Hell I could be wrong, but thats the way they've always acted. Social experiments and tests would be the only way to determine the hypothesis.

I have also noticed that the "nice guys" do not ask out the "nice girls." The nice guys become attracted to women with daddy issues who are basically just s..luts.

If you ask a "nice guy" to go out with a "nice girl" he will say "but that's boring!" while at the same time wondering why women don't go for "nice guys" not realizing the irony of the whole situation.

In short, you could say, "Women don't go after nice guys for the same reason you don't go after nice girls."

 

[Jaylan]

We say on here "most girls want a challenge" and that's why they don't go for nice guys but I think a lot of men on here want a challenge too and don't want a pushover girl either.

Throughout my life I have met crazy girls with daddy issues and nice girls who are just......nice. I can definitely say that the nice girls are way too boring and don't have much going for themselves.

The nice girl who is cute and doesn't say much is basically in the same boat as the nice guy who is "cute" to women but doesn't say much.

What you said in red is what I have been saying on this forum since I joined. Most people enjoy a challenge, myself included. And we usually want what we cant have.

For me, the nice girls tend to be boring, easy to push over, do not get a rise out of me, and seem to be less sexual.

Personally I like someone who is a b!tch, but doesnt cross the line. She still can show class and respect. I consider myself a blunt azzhole with women, however I tend to tow the line between attraction and getting slapped in the face. Either way I have had girls outright hate me when they meet me, and we still ended up hooking up. One of the most passionate connections Ive had with someone was a person who absolutely got under my skin at times. We were playful yet verbally abrasive with one another and would get on one anothers nerves easily. I guess we both enjoyed conflict because this translated into some fiercely passionate sex.

On to your main topic, I do think not having a male or female authority figure growing up can present issues in a person. I do not necessarily think this will translate into a guy or a girl being a slutty *****, nor do I think that alone will make someone date considerably older people. Theres a variety of factors that shape a person when growing up that can play into those things.

 

[Alex DeLarge]

I have also noticed that the "nice guys" do not ask out the "nice girls." The nice guys become attracted to women with daddy issues who are basically just s..luts.

If you ask a "nice guy" to go out with a "nice girl" he will say "but that's boring!" while at the same time wondering why women don't go for "nice guys" not realizing the irony of the whole situation.

In short, you could say, "Women don't go after nice guys for the same reason you don't go after nice girls."

For real though, I like nice girls. It's just tough to find them these days with all of the "It's liberating to be a *****" bvllsh1t in the media. I tend to focus on one girl at a time. I wouldn't say I'm a "nice guy" either.. Most girls have called me a "playful fun assh0le" which I see as a great compliment lol. I don't have the time to be texting/talking to 5 different girls and setting up dates. There are other girls I have who I can hook up with if I go out and party with them, but they're not girls I actively talk to. I work full time, go to school full time, and I play in a band on the weekends. Although, those activities and goals can be seen as other "plates".

 

[Scars]

Assuming that the father figure is a strong roll model who acts like a MAN, he shouldn't be condemned with "mommy issues". In fact, I would say that growing up in only your moms care would leave you with MORE psychological problems. As men, we need a strong manly figure to roll model from. Most men who grew up with just their mothers generally become pvssified beta boys (because mommy brought them up to be "respectful" to woman), or they grew up hating their mothers and take out their hatred on all woman in general. These men are generally diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder. Despite being very seductive, and generally sleeping with a lot of different woman, they are manipulative and deep down they're truly misogynists and seek out validation/feelings of "love" in other woman because they never got it from their mothers while growing up.

-Scars

 

[Warrior74]

This is what most people mean when they use the keyword mommy issues.

http://ezinearticles.com/?Guys-Your...n-Your-Relationships-Never-Work-Out&id=653913

http://www.vaildaily.com/article/20080505/AE/156635149