"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Are looks important to women? (1967)
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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What is An Attractive Man? Ireland 1967
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Those were different times, it would be interesting to contrast that with more current videos asking the same questions.
That was the era I grew up in, and it seems very familiar to me. In those days, women were looking to marry, and most still had to in order to survive. So a man being a good provider, and also kindhearted was important, because the woman needed to rely on the man, and didn't want to be stuck in an abusive marriage. It's also interesting to see character mentioned, because in these days it seems like most morality is out the window, along with values, and everything is more anything goes. A girl wants to bang another girl this week? Great. She wants to bang some guy next week? Great, whatever you like.
The attitude on muscles is maybe the most interesting. I remember this very strongly, that women did not like the bodybuilder look, it was seen as disgusting, and you can see it yourself if you look at bodybuilders. Looks kind of nasty. Which is not to say these girls wouldn't like muscles, but they would go more for the Abercrombie look than the Arnold Schwarzenegger look (although they say Arnold got laid plenty). I imagine the bodybuilders had their female groupie followers like any other famous people. But basically the bodybuilder look was not appreciated. Contrast this with now and guys swear by spending more time in the gym.
That was the era I grew up in, and it seems very familiar to me. In those days, women were looking to marry, and most still had to in order to survive. So a man being a good provider, and also kindhearted was important, because the woman needed to rely on the man, and didn't want to be stuck in an abusive marriage. It's also interesting to see character mentioned, because in these days it seems like most morality is out the window, along with values, and everything is more anything goes. A girl wants to bang another girl this week? Great. She wants to bang some guy next week? Great, whatever you like.
The attitude on muscles is maybe the most interesting. I remember this very strongly, that women did not like the bodybuilder look, it was seen as disgusting, and you can see it yourself if you look at bodybuilders. Looks kind of nasty. Which is not to say these girls wouldn't like muscles, but they would go more for the Abercrombie look than the Arnold Schwarzenegger look (although they say Arnold got laid plenty). I imagine the bodybuilders had their female groupie followers like any other famous people. But basically the bodybuilder look was not appreciated. Contrast this with now and guys swear by spending more time in the gym.
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In 1967, the younger women being interviewed for this segment likely would have been women born during the Great Depression or World War II years, so typically 1933-1945 births. That means they would have been 22-34 at that time. In the United States, these would have been called The Silent Generation, though these interviews took place in Australia and Ireland.
In Western nations, there was still more of a traditionalist mindset in 1967, though things were starting to change. The birth control pill hit the market in 1960 and the Sexual Revolution was underway.
In Western nations, there was still more of a traditionalist mindset in 1967, though things were starting to change. The birth control pill hit the market in 1960 and the Sexual Revolution was underway.
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It is very interesting to see how the mindset have changed so drastically on into what we have today in my opinion.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.