Are Dating Apps really that bad right now

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A lot of men are still meeting women the traditional way but come on so suave and you swear that the only Chad's and Tyrone's that are getting all the women 38,762 marriages happen a week in the USA, That's 155,048 marriages a month and 1.8 million marriages a year. So all these women by that logic are only marrying Chad's and Tyrones? of course not

But let sosuave tell it and the average guy has no chance what so ever in today's dating market
The issue is that guys on sosuave/the internet see these non Chad men with women as beta males getting cucked by their partners for Chad in secrecy. In actuality, these guys have something of value to offer to the women while your faux edgelord alpha/sigma male on the internet cannot offer a single thing.
 

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The issue is that guys on sosuave/the internet see these non Chad men with women as beta males getting cucked by their partners for Chad in secrecy. In actuality, these guys have something of value to offer to the women while your faux edgelord alpha/sigma male on the internet cannot offer a single thing.
Thank God I don't live on the internet. I see regular guys slay it in real life all the time, Sosuave will say that it's the exception and that may be true But I know broke guys spinning 5 plates, fat guys spinning plates, guys living at home banging smokeshows etc. Most of these guys are not Redpill.

I'm more focused on how I can be successful on getting the type of woman I want. I've been around this forum long enough to know and see things for men as a collective aren't getting better and that if you put the work in you can be successful and win in life and that includes with women!
 

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Thank God I don't live on the internet. I see regular guys slay it in real life all the time, Sosuave will say that it's the exception and that may be true But I know broke guys spinning 5 plates, fat guys spinning plates, guys living at home banging smokeshows etc. Most of these guys are not Redpill.

I'm more focused on how I can be successful on getting the type of woman I want. I've been around this forum long enough to know and see things for men as a collective aren't getting better and that if you put the work in you can be successful and win in life and that includes with women!
In my early-mid-twenties I had a bad victim mindset that I couldn't get laid consistently because of my race. Even if I saw brown men with women outside in public, I always ruled it out as an exception, or the girl was low quality deep down. The true problem was that I was an uninteresting, paranoid and bitter red pilled male that repelled women like the plague. Do factors like race, height, weight, and etc matter? Yes, to some extent, but all of these can be easily overcome by what you decide to do with yourself.
 

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A lot of men are still meeting women the traditional way but come on so suave and you swear that the only Chad's and Tyrone's that are getting all the women 38,762 marriages happen a week in the USA, That's 155,048 marriages a month and 1.8 million marriages a year. So all these women by that logic are only marrying Chad's and Tyrones? of course not

But let sosuave tell it and the average guy has no chance what so ever in today's dating market
i don't think i would ever date out of my league in London on apps- daygame i always had a chance because of the opportunity of being in the right place at the right time . That being said i always felt that online game depends on the market- if youre an American in brazil or china on the apps you'd most likely slay - in New York it would be a competitive environment for most men. My brother did only online game for roughly 8 years in london (he's a multi millionaire author that resides in a wealthy part of london) and all he got were trash leftover girls or single mums. His online experiences inspired me to work harder at my daygame - i didn't wanna end up being someones sloppy last resort.

I had one lay from online game when i was in brazil - the girl even admitted "you're an average looking guy but Brazilian men are too stupid and aggressive to date - i rather date a foreigner " so that lay alone was entirely based on my status as a foreigner . Again im not bitching on apps but for the majority of men daygame should be their first port of call.
 

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A lot of men are still meeting women the traditional way but come on so suave and you swear that the only Chad's and Tyrone's that are getting all the women 38,762 marriages happen a week in the USA, That's 155,048 marriages a month and 1.8 million marriages a year. So all these women by that logic are only marrying Chad's and Tyrones? of course not

But let sosuave tell it and the average guy has no chance what so ever in today's dating market
was having dinner with my aunt in the US two months ago and she said she was really glad me and my gf met face to face in this online era as most my cousins and brothers met their wives/gfs/bfs online - a comment like that made the daygame grind worth it (i know its not much but it did impact me)
 

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A lot of men are still meeting women the traditional way but come on so suave and you swear that the only Chad's and Tyrone's that are getting all the women 38,762 marriages happen a week in the USA, That's 155,048 marriages a month and 1.8 million marriages a year. So all these women by that logic are only marrying Chad's and Tyrones? of course not

But let sosuave tell it and the average guy has no chance what so ever in today's dating market
Those marriages aren't only Chads and Tyrones. There are women who marry lesser men. Some of the times it is lesser men dumpster diving. You'll see 5-6 range males marrying 3-4 range females dumpster diving if they met online.

Some of these marriages are also lower SMV people (aging sets of people with kids from previous relationships marrying each other).

A lot of the market is dog poop level people finding each other.

Some betas will get relationships from their social circles too.

Tech-based interactions tend to favor the top tier men.

While top tier men don't need to commit due to abundance from apps, there are marriages that happen when a top tier man marries a top level female. Sometimes an app is how they met. It's possible for an 8.5 male to marry an 8-9 level female.

Some women marry for money. Look at influencer Courtney Ryan marrying dweeb with women Teddy Baldassarre after meeting on an app. She's cute range (never was hot). She's only with Teddy Baldassarre for his money and she realized earlier in life than a lot of money that she was going to be unable to secure a long term commitment out of the alpha/sigma type that she truly desired.

Geography was likely relevant for her. She went to college in small town Ohio and appears to have lived in Cleveland since then. Cleveland is a bigger city but not quite as known for attractive women as Miami, Dallas, New York, or Los Angeles.

 

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Those marriages aren't only Chads and Tyrones. There are women who marry lesser men. Some of the times it is lesser men dumpster diving. You'll see 5-6 range males marrying 3-4 range females dumpster diving if they met online.

Some of these marriages are also lower SMV people (aging sets of people with kids from previous relationships marrying each other).

A lot of the market is dog poop level people finding each other.

Some betas will get relationships from their social circles too.

Tech-based interactions tend to favor the top tier men.

While top tier men don't need to commit due to abundance from apps, there are marriages that happen when a top tier man marries a top level female. Sometimes an app is how they met. It's possible for an 8.5 male to marry an 8-9 level female.

Some women marry for money. Look at influencer Courtney Ryan marrying dweeb with women Teddy Baldassarre after meeting on an app. She's cute range (never was hot). She's only with Teddy Baldassarre for his money and she realized earlier in life than a lot of money that she was going to be unable to secure a long term commitment out of the alpha/sigma type that she truly desired.

Geography was likely relevant for her. She went to college in small town Ohio and appears to have lived in Cleveland since then. Cleveland is a bigger city but not quite as known for attractive women as Miami, Dallas, New York, or Los Angeles.

You're making my point for me.
 

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In my early-mid-twenties I had a bad victim mindset that I couldn't get laid consistently because of my race. Even if I saw brown men with women outside in public, I always ruled it out as an exception, or the girl was low quality deep down. The true problem was that I was an uninteresting, paranoid and bitter red pilled male that repelled women like the plague. Do factors like race, height, weight, and etc matter? Yes, to some extent, but all of these can be easily overcome by what you decide to do with yourself.
The truth is some guys wanna be perpetual victims, and I've noticed things have got worse, it just seems men have giving up. The sad part is if guys think it's hard now, a lot of them won't make it in a decade cause **** is going to get harder.
As a man going through adversity creates character and lot of men are bitches in 2024 it is what it is
 
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