Are Chicks Intimidated By Good Looking Guys?

[evesman]

I've worked up the nerve to be bolder with the opposite sex, both in my seminar and occasionally on evening outings to local bars and the occasional club. One thing I notice during the day, is women seem very nervous talking to me. Sometimes they look at me with what appears to be extreme aggression. This is after just saying hi, or making small talk. Other times they appear frightened just looking at me.

Other times, they become skittish and nervous.

My theory is that these girls find me physically attractive.

I have noticed that in successive conversations, they seem to be much more calm and composed, although sometimes their nervousness never really goes away. I am having a hard time getting them to agree to go out with me. They sometimes won't even answer. They look like they are deep in thought, or just frozen.

What are your suggestions?

 

[wjh]

their problem, not yours. Find hotter girls.

 

[WC2]

Vibe down to their level?

I've had the same happen on a few occasions, but unfortunately not as much as I'd like to (give me 3 - 4 inches and I'll be right there).

If you talk as if you are dominant, that is fine. If you talk is if you are BETTER than a woman, sometimes they are turned off. Tone down your looks by toning down the conversation and being very personal. Let her get comfortable in talking to you and then you can become more dominant as she starts to vibe more.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Damn, some of you are just too good looking for your own good. Ugly-fy yourselves if you want to do better with chicks.

In all seriousness, are you smiling enough when you make eye contact? If you are not and are just starring back, you might be coming accross as too intense/intimidating, and yes, unaprochoable.

 

[DonJuan11]

One thing I notice during the day, is women seem very nervous talking to me. Sometimes they look at me with what appears to be extreme aggression. This is after just saying hi, or making small talk. Other times they appear frightened just looking at me.

I have noticed that in successive conversations, they seem to be much more calm and composed, although sometimes their nervousness never really goes away. I am having a hard time getting them to agree to go out with me. They sometimes won't even answer. They look like they are deep in thought, or just frozen.

What are your suggestions?

Maybe they just lost their job, maybe they can't speak english very well, maybe they are nervous their boyfriend will catch them talking to you, maybe they have to go to the bathroom, maybe they have nothing to say, maybe they stutter, or maybe they are just not good at making conversation.

Or maybe they are just not that good looking to begin with.

 

[PlayToWin]

.......call me crazy....or maybe this is just the booze talking....(yes I am drinking right now...and this may sound harsh, but read the post in its entirety before dismissing or judging it.

But I respect your problem, but in all seriousness, if your biggest problem is that women find you too attractive and to combat that issue you have come on a message board to figure out how to basically either uglyfy yourself or to make it less of an issue....then seriously I mean is this a real problem or did you just do it to boost your ego to make a post like this.

Because seriously, I hate to be harsh, (and again maybe this is the booze talking), but if you can't score or date with women because they find you TOO attractive, then you must have the worst personality and game in the world. Because 95% of the people on this board fall somewhere in the 0-8 range, which is well below the level of "so attractive you intimidate women". The other 5% are already very successful with women but want to improve even more.

With all that being said and as harsh as I was, I don't think that your personality is all that bad, in fact I said all that just to put you in perspective, that although you may be attractive, there either is sheer bad luck, some aspect in your approach and personality, or you are just not as attractive as you think that is causing your mediocre succuss with women. Although it is all about being confident, its important to realize when something isn't working, and I myself at least have never...and I mean NEVER, seen a girl who would flake or wouldn't go out with a guy because they were intimidated because he was too attractive. I mean I have known girls who said they would not initially approach a certain guy because they thought he was out of there league. However once that attractive guy approached her, if he had any game at all, she went from intimidated to blowing him in the same day as soon as he talked to her.

So I made this long, rambling, (drunk) post to basically try to get you to realize, that although you may have a great shot at these girls due to your attractiveness....there also must be some aspect of your game that you have to tweak, otherwise these girls would be no problem.

Thats just my crazy...(and tipsy drunk) opinion though, but I think you just should consider and find out some aspect in your game that seems to make them act this way besides your look and see if changing it doesn't affect you success.

 

[blackbelt2k]

I think i can relate..and can definitely relate to wc2..i'm only 5'8. But I've noticed this, but also from men... at work i tend to hunch over, and go against what i've learned, just because I think it may be intimidating to others, esp. my boss. I don't think this is the way to go, but then again, I'm still learning.

 

[Love]

"I'm so beautiful that I don't have sex"

First thing that comes to mind is oxymoron... But if you are for real then you may be giving off a horrible vibe.

 

[Rex Man]

First off, you're not too good looking to have sex. Trust me. I doubt Brad Pitt was jerking it b4 Jolie. Ok, dismiss that theory. Now where does that leave us?

These girls you are 'gaming', and I'm using that term very loosely, all act weirded out or offended when you chat them up? There is obviously something wrong with the interactions themselves. Only you can asess what is giving your convos a bad vibe. Next time you're with one of these chicks, take a step back and evaluate the situation. Maybe it's body language, sarcasm, etc. but only you can make that judgement.

 

[PlayToWin]

First off, you're not too good looking to have sex. Trust me. I doubt Brad Pitt was jerking it b4 Jolie. Ok, dismiss that theory. Now where does that leave us?

These girls you are 'gaming', and I'm using that term very loosely, all act weirded out or offended when you chat them up? There is obviously something wrong with the interactions themselves. Only you can asess what is giving your convos a bad vibe. Next time you're with one of these chicks, take a step back and evaluate the situation. Maybe it's body language, sarcasm, etc. but only you can make that judgement.

ok whew, I guess its not just the booze talking, because I am still thinking this same exact thing as this(and as I posted earlier) and I thought it was the booze talking but I guess not, becasue other poeple are agreeing.

 

[evesman]

I might be reading too much into the interactions. I pick up on subtleties that other people miss very easily. For example, these girls just stare and stare and stare. They seem not to be verbally responsive. As a result of the staring, I assume hostility, even if they don't have that in their mind.

Also, even if I just glance at a girl, that may be enough to make them flinch noticeably. This is just a glance on my part but with direct eye contact.

And no, I don't come across as hostile. If anything, most people consider me to be very laid back and easy going.

 

[PRMoon]

This can go both ways. On one hand yes, there are a ton of girls who are completely overwhelemed by the attractiveness and charisma put out buy a guy. However for guys it's still not easy to manage the experienced woman based solely on looks. If you have an indimidating demeanor and the stride to back it up, it will be very easy to attract and indimidate women but in the case of the experienced woman, after they meet and greet you there may and often will be some additional work to be done.

I have a good look to me and I carry myself well but from time to time i will drop the ball when it comes time for me to do the social foot work, ie identifying type of girl then finding their likes to match in gaming, and botch the whole deal. Some times it's from being too tight, others it's from being too loose. Either way I missed a read and ended up paying for it by going home solo at the end of the night.

Keep in mind, for a while now that kind of thing hasn't gotten me down but that's becasue I go in to almost every female encounter hoping for the best but expecting the worst. So ultimately I'm never let down because if you expect to fail it's almost funny seeing how things went about. Learning from the humor is what has made me sucessful.

I stray from the point. Girls only and always will have as much power as you give them. If you pedistol a girl who you feel is a 10 and let her know then you've tipped your hand. If she's a 10 and you treat her like a 7 and game well, then you level the feild slightly in your favor. The battle still exist but at least your psyche going in isn't as revealing and you've tried your odds on a better scale.

 

[decades]

no they eat them for breakfast.

 

[ready123]

you sure you not creepin them out? if they're frightened, that's wierd

from what I've seen, a girl attracted to you will fall into your frame if she's the following type, or start testing you/being playful if she's socially savvy. girls that are intimidated still convey they're attracted to you by subcommunication - maybe their body is facing you, their focus is entirely on you despite being passive, etc. if you're getting a cold reaction, they're either not feeling you or unsure about you

there are also the low self-esteem girls. if they think you're attractive and you have a playa vibe, some of them automatically start thinking you're fvckin with them - IE this guy is out of my league and he's just talking to me to tool me

 

[holycow83]

stop trying too hard. be on their level. make sure you are both equally contributing to the conversation. try to talk more on things that matter to her, that are obvious. for example if she has her nails done, talk about something like fashion, or looking good. dont bore her on things you think are important. i have to agree with Rex Man. I dont think anyone is too good looking to have sex. Just remember, unless it happens naturally, it wasn't meant to be.

 

[JahGlory]

How are you so hot and so fvcked up?

Serious question, no offfense.

But I think you got a total overhaul to do. Work on your inner game and memorise some openers if you wanna talk to girls in the meantime.

Even though the best openers are those that come spontenaously and in the moment, others still work, especially if you are attractive.

But something doesn't click - if you are attractive you should already have the confidence to be past these problems. Are you young? You don't seem like a dunce to me... So how are you so fvcked? Ego? What?

 

[PRMoon]

Yes and no. Like women guys have the ability to project good looks over their female inferiors and compete with those of equal status. Mostly it's about the ability to exude what is precieved as good looks, with confidence over those who aren't framiliar with how the social game works. I have a few "hot friends" and only half of them get girls because they put out a persona of an atractive person all the time where as the others bank on looks alone with no support or style and end up flat and alone.

Girls are the same as guys. They can be smitten by the looks of a guy but depending on their experience and mood may or may not give into their primal intuitions upon the dilevery of solid "game" as presented by the guy they are looking at/ interested in.

Many of us forget, women have no idea how men work on a vast scale so a hot guy vs an ug guy base on their scale of attraction may end with different results. They ask just as many "stupid" questions as most lost guys do soo don't feel that the deck is stacked againstyou for one reason or another. The battle is just the same from the opossing side as it is for the home team.