Are boyfriend/girlfriend titles important to a relationship?

[girlsarecrazy]

Right now me and my girl have been exclusive but we don't make a big deal about titles. Yes we can call each other boyfriend and girlfriend when people ask us... but really we don't carry titles. Currently our myspace status' says we are single. But yet she has a picture of me and her together under "Who I'd like to Meet" and it says "i already met him, and hes perfect". I'm confused as to why we don't carry titles i'm just like w/e fvck it. I'm having fun and i'm happy.

We spend a lot of time with each other, don't see any other people except our friends, still fvck a lot, still kiss all the time, and all the normal relationship stuff, but yet she just doesn't want to carry the titles. I'm usually just like w/e i'm having fun with this chick and she's being loyal to me without the titles so i can't really complain

But:

A major problem is that when i go out to parties without her she feels uneasy and worried.

Same problem happends when she goes out alone.

What is your opinion? Are the titles important or what?

 

[Jariel]

Yes the titles are important to a proper relationship, because of one obvious question:

Why does she not want to be called your girlfriend?

The answer is not going to be positive that's for sure. Generally when girls I've been involved refused to be my girlfriend it meant they were keeping their options open.

Has she actually refused and have you asked her for a reason? Maybe you need to communicate more and find out where things stand.

If she's refusing, then I strongly recommend that you have your fun with her and enjoy the relationship you have, but keep it casual and keep your options open.

 

[biker_gixxer]

she has a picture of me and her together under "Who I'd like to Meet" and it says "i already met him, and hes perfect".

What are you worried about then?

We spend a lot of time with each other, don't see any other people except our friends, still fvck a lot, still kiss all the time, and all the normal relationship stuff,

Sorry bro, but I'm not seeing the down side to this topic. It sounds like you are hung up on this 'status' thing, you need to get over it and stop worrying about the small stuff.

 

[girlsarecrazy]

Sorry bro, but I'm not seeing the down side to this topic. It sounds like you are hung up on this 'status' thing, you need to get over it and stop worrying about the small stuff.

I keep that in my mind that she's not going anywhere because her heart is set on me... But i'm making sacrifices, I have plenty of opportunities to hook up with chicks. I'm tired of pretended to be taken because technically i'm single. The problem is that guranteed if i hook up with another chick, she'll get jealous and try her hardest to hook up with another guy just make things even. Jealousy is replacing our security (official status). Feel me?

 

[Distant Light]

Put it this way if you want her to be your gf then fuvk her 3-4 times a week. Since I've been in the game I've never came out and said we go out or made a so call status. Its like right now a friend of mine fuvked this girl i know and now she thinks they go out when really they don't they just fuvked, but she invested so much that she is going to think of it as bf and gf. So just keep fuvking her and treat her as if she was your gf.

 

[speedo_meme]

What are you worried about then?

Sorry bro, but I'm not seeing the down side to this topic. It sounds like you are hung up on this 'status' thing, you need to get over it and stop worrying about the small stuff.

It's because girlsarecrazy has a permanent dildo stuck up his ass. Must I link all his posts about this one girl again to show you how big a troll he is?

 

[flexion_]

If you are French it ok to just call yourself American but you still are French.
Not sure what the problem is - you two have agreed to be exclusive. Thats all thats really important - the title doesn't matter.

 

[DJHoolahoop]

but i can hear what he's saying here. I think people put too much emphasis on being bf/gf and that stuff shouldn't matter, but yet it does for some reason. Strangely enough, people feel more secure when they can attach "BF" and "GF" or rely on a mystical bond known as marriage. Mystical because people think that there's some binding force that keeps two people magically together because of the symbolism attached. Reality is that no two people are truly required to be together and the mere fact that it exists is pretty remarkable.

The safety net associated with the title and ring symbolism is that there's something higher than themselves that they can use for energy. They'll "stick through the hard times" because they believe that that is what marriage is about. Others will use that same bond to try and "grab on" to the one they're with as a means of saying "they're mine! and NO ONE ELSE can have them now!".

There's a lot of outside pressure and pointless irrelevances associated with relationships and of marriage that create a lot of the problems people are trying to "fix". In this mans case I'd say that there needs to be a discussion of feelings about it so that you two can work that out because trust is a big thing and part of that means that you need to ultimately remind yourself that this person isn't "your property" and isn't forced to be with you, so instead of feeling the fear and anxiety of knowing that try to use that energy to do everything you can to enjoy each others company while you can and not take it for granted.

Just remember to ditch her sorry @zz if she takes YOU for granted.