Are any of you quasi relationship therapist?

[PRMoon]

Some how I fell into that role at my job. I was minding my own buisness at lunch today, trying to beat a hang over, when this coctail waitress (i knew when i was working at the pool) sits down and asks me for advice on her relationship. I first asked her why she was asking me this and she said id been giving good truthful advice to people about their relationships and dating and didn't even know it so she wanted in. I was very puzzled by this and said any advice i give can't be taken as law but I would listen and help where I could. I ended up spending half my lunch break in the therapist role, fotuntately i eat fast so it was no big deal.

Do any of you go through things like this or do you avoid it completely? I think spending as much time on the site has given me a little insite into relationships so am i in the wrong or setting myself up for a fall if what advice i give out turns out to be wrong. Mabey I'll make people sign some kind of liabilty release form or just tell them i'm not Dr. Phil so what i say should be taken for a grain of salt.

 

[MacAvoy]

Tell them advice isn't free, either they pay you $50/hr or get down on their knees. Tell them to consider it practice to improve their skills for their b/f.

 

[Thomas94305]

Gals love talking about relationships. If you enjoy it, go for it. But, you will be seen as a friend, not a potential boyfriend. Especially if you are talking about her relationships with other guys.

If you want this to be used for attracting women, would recommend first getting out of the friends category before you give any relationship advice. Flirt, establish that you are not a friend. Then, you can talk about the kinds of relationships YOU want. Her relationships with other guys are not of interest.

Your choice. I'll discuss relationships with gals that do not interest me all the time.

 

[PRMoon]

I don't think i'll be charging anyone for my services rendered. Again there's a chance that i could be wrong and since I'm already being paid by the hotel, I don't really see a need to charge yet. However if all of a sudden groups of people are bombarding me with questions while I'm trying to enjoy my free lunch, I may concider charging to get them to leave me alone.

Also, I'm not doing this out of friendship or for attraction purposes. I just like to help people where I can. Girls or guys, i'm just spreading the knowledge of the DJ around in a convincing way, hoping it'll wake some people up to the reality of their relationships (as seen by me) and hopefully get them to take steps in the right direction towards postive goals.

 

[Thomas94305]

Props PRMoon.. making the world a better place is VERY DJ :yes:

 

[juslen]

I'm the type of person who is very good at reading people and giving advice. But its not often that people come up to me and ask for my advice, lol. If it works for you, hell keep doing it. You have a reputation for being smart and helpful. So people come to you.

Maybe now its time to use your gift for advice giving to get a few things that YOU want. If people genuinely enjoy hearing what you have to say, that might be your ticket to broaden your social circle.

Don't just be the guy that people come to for quick advice. Right now you may simply be a relationship advice vending machine. People drop by and drop their quarters in for some quick easy advice. They don't have to do anything in return. If thats your current situation i would try to get out of it.

You don't want to get type casted. Thats my advice

 

[00Kevin]

Some how I fell into that role at my job. I was minding my own buisness at lunch today, trying to beat a hang over, when this coctail waitress (i knew when i was working at the pool) sits down and asks me for advice on her relationship.

If you didn't number close this chick you just got used as an emotional tampon.

 

[PRMoon]

If you didn't number close this chick you just got used as an emotional tampon.

Why do I have to be interested in EVERY girl i meet kevin? Not an attack but a simple question. I'm seeing quite a few women and have some booty calls on speed dial so am I required to take advantage of every opportunity that comes my way?

p.s. I had hot steamy sex in the passenger seat of my car last night and the girl took 10 bucks from me then slid me a hundo!

 

[mrRuckus]

I give advice all the time and hardly anyone listens and watches their relationships crash and burn. I just watched my housemate's relationship from beginning to end and early on i told him how it was going to go from observing it and everything came true.

He spent every moment he possibly could with her and when he wasn't with her he'd be on the phone with her or txting her. Surprise she got tired of him and didn't bother to even tell him when she broke up with him. He talked to MY girlfriend about it once and she said "she dumped you. you just don't know it yet" but still he held on even though they hadn't had sex in a month. Goddammit. I also work with this guy so we bullsh1t ALL THE TIME and i'm always talking about how to handle women and what i did or how things went with women i talk about. I tell him my mistakes and where I went wrong and my triumphs and what i did right and i explicitly tell him what not to do and then watch him go right out and do it and fail.. over and over again.

Then there are a couple other guys who basically do the same thing... sit there and agree with me wholeheartedly when i preach but then are always total afcs later on when they're around girls or their girlfriends.

 

[Nighthawk]

I am. Before discovering this place I had my own internet relationship advice forum. It was called Towelie's Guide To Chicks.

But if you're worried about backfire, you could play humble. 'I'm no expert, this is just one guys opinion but...'