Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
What's interesting is how Nature allows there to still be a balance of boy and girl. Nature apparently wants 50/50 still and no evolution to a lop-sided birthed sex seems to have developed. There's argument of our ability to reproduce being stamped out by "Designer babies" whereby we no longer grow sex organs 200+ years into the future. A book called "The Revolutionary Phenotype" addresses this danger that China is already dabbling with (and No One is alarmed). Once machines/computers begin to say "what's best" genes to go into a baby for any given "family," then the decision to have your children naturally will be deemed "not the best decision" to be able to compete with other people's "Designer babies." Then we stop growing sex organs through evolution, then our race Dies out without reliance on machines/computers. No military action currently is being taken in China to stop this designer baby dabbling which once the ball gets rolling, WILL Not STOP!I read an evolutionary study on this.
At different times, the number of men was severely reduced. Accidents. Warfare between tribes. Hunting parties falling prey. Avalanches. Etc.
Women still needed sexual release. There is evidence to support a very severe lack of males at different times. Whereas there is no evidence to support a lack of women. Anywhere. There are no stories of lack of women in any folklore or legend.
There was a whole section in the article of excommunicated homosexuals and unfit males that banded together at times for survival purposes. Thus the natural instinct for heterosexual males to stay away from homosexual males. There’s no fear, just a biological drive to separate themselves from homosexuals.
In the cases of governments. The genes to activate and use will generate very docile homogeneous people. Basically feminized.What's interesting is how Nature allows there to still be a balance of boy and girl. Nature apparently wants 50/50 still and no evolution to a lop-sided birthed sex seems to have developed. There's argument of our ability to reproduce being stamped out by "Designer babies" whereby we no longer grow sex organs 200+ years into the future. A book called "The Revolutionary Phenotype" addresses this danger that China is already dabbling with (and No One is alarmed). Once machines/computers begin to say "what's best" genes to go into a baby for any given "family," then the decision to have your children naturally will be deemed "not the best decision" to be able to compete with other people's "Designer babies." Then we stop growing sex organs through evolution, then our race Dies out without reliance on machines/computers. No military action currently is being taken in China to stop this designer baby dabbling which once the ball gets rolling, WILL Not STOP!
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Forcing agriculture also has to do with creating a power structure. If we all work to produce grain, someone has to store it, guard it, and divy it out to the people. That necessiates a hierarchy of authority that did not exist in the hunter gatherer structure. If you can go make it on your own in the wilderness, then you don't need the authorities to feed you.There was some factual history stuff that I looked up in the Library of Congress.
The Roman Empire, to prevent uprisings in conquered provinces, made the populace convert to agriculture. Grains.
Grains are used to reduced aggression by lowering testosterone in Hunter Gatherer tribes.
The US government realizing that grains and agriculture reduced aggressive individuality in human beings, set up a program to “civilize” the American Plains Indians by forcing them into agriculture. This is documented in the Library of Congress. It was borrowed from the Romans as a strategy. Canada did the same.
The plains and Rocky Mountain aboriginals were fiercely independent as nations. As well as the Iroquois Nations. Agriculture was used to pacify them.
They have no defense against alchoholism genetically. Thus is was illegal to sell alchohol to native tribes.
Alcohol is a form of sugar. It wrecked the tribes and they have never recovered.
Grains also turn to sugar for all human genetics in the stomach and act as a form of opiate.
I think a lot of single men don't really like being surrounded by other men all the time, period, sexual orientation notwithstanding. I went to a predominantly male school that had so few females that I was going crazy by Spring from the sausage fest.There was a whole section in the article of excommunicated homosexuals and unfit males that banded together at times for survival purposes. Thus the natural instinct for heterosexual males to stay away from homosexual males. There’s no fear, just a biological drive to separate themselves from homosexuals.