The Italian Baws
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Man good job keep acting like that. Even if you fail you get more xp so don't worry the worst that can happen is that you get better the next time
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
aproaching 50 girls
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
eaglez1177
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Dude why do you keep saying you need a script prepared lol? Your not supposed to have any script at all! Its called having balls and acting calm and cool when you approach.
And arent you the one that attempted to go on a "ten day challenge" to get with this one chick you liked? That seemed to go REAL well....
And arent you the one that attempted to go on a "ten day challenge" to get with this one chick you liked? That seemed to go REAL well....
TheEnergizer
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^yeah listen to eagles. screw openers and scripts. hell i find it easier to open with absolutely nothing. you cant go wrong when you do that and your not nervous right before the approach. your mind is clearer and you not just focusing on reciting that one opener, which she'll forget anyways once she gets a look at your unscripted personality.
so try it
and good luck. dont get worried and clear your mind of everything but the fun your about to have talking to that chick.
so try it
and good luck. dont get worried and clear your mind of everything but the fun your about to have talking to that chick.eaglez1177
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Lol yea good luck bro hopefully things will go better this timepeacefire said:
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Crazy Asian
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awesome man.
i'm doing the same thing as you right now.
i used to be pretty decent at approaching, but lately, i've been getting lazy.
not just in approaching, but in all aspects of my life.
just keep in mind that the outcome of the approach is not what's important.
no matter how it goes, you learn the same amount.
i'm doing the same thing as you right now.
i used to be pretty decent at approaching, but lately, i've been getting lazy.
not just in approaching, but in all aspects of my life.
just keep in mind that the outcome of the approach is not what's important.
no matter how it goes, you learn the same amount.
cold aproach 3...
i aproached 2 girls one of them was the same girl in my 2nd aproach the other one was another girl but she wasnt hot at all...
so
me: hey you guys
girl from A2: hey
me: whats up?
her: were just working on blah blah
then they both kinda ignored me and looked at their laptop..
it was kinda akward...for a minute or so i just sat there...
didnt say anythin... then i just left their table...didnt even say goodbye..cuz i didnt want to look as if i wanted aproval...i left as if i was bored with the situation..i felt less nervous though...but it still felt a lil akward...
aproach: 3/50
i aproached 2 girls one of them was the same girl in my 2nd aproach the other one was another girl but she wasnt hot at all...
so
me: hey you guys
girl from A2: hey
me: whats up?
her: were just working on blah blah
then they both kinda ignored me and looked at their laptop..
it was kinda akward...for a minute or so i just sat there...
didnt say anythin... then i just left their table...didnt even say goodbye..cuz i didnt want to look as if i wanted aproval...i left as if i was bored with the situation..i felt less nervous though...but it still felt a lil akward...
aproach: 3/50
TheEnergizer
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ah, your going through THAT stage. dont worry about being awkward, for soon enough you will grow out of that and awkward moments will happen only rarely, and even when that happens theyre no sweat. just keep in mind once you grow out of this awkward stage girls will quickly forget all the awkward situations youve had in the past and will remove that awkward label they have on your forehead right now and put a nice 'cool' sticker where it used to bepeacefire said:
. thats what happened to me. your doing great, your going through all my stages (thats a good thing)im not gonna conscider this a cold aproach but today i was on the bus and and mature lady was sitting next to me. she was reading a book which was written in another language...im not usually used to askin strangers questions but you know this might sound a lil pathetic but yeh i tried to get out of my comfort zone and i asked her what language the book was and she said it was in russian. then i said okay and the interaction was over a lil akward i shoud say but i found something interesting about the interaction and myself. when i asked the lady the question i was scared and i wanted to unconciously end the conversation as quickly as possible...dunno exactly why? maybe cuz im not comfortable in situations like dat?? i knew i couldve made more conversation but i didnt. hmmm...
k keep it pce
k keep it pce
jeffthechef
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i don't think doing cold approaches at your stage of development is a good idea yet...it'll help a little..but if you really want to reach the nex tlevel where cold approaches might begin to be more productive
ASK ONE GIRL OUT SOMEWHERE...not a date...just to have fun....if you can't ask one girl to hang out sometime...doing all these cold approaches won't make that first time asking better...you must ask one girl then do cold approaches to build up your game..and then go back and ask a girl to hang...the first time you ask...it should be the second girl on your list....leave the first girl for later...but i don't think doing cold approaches will help you out at this point
ASK ONE GIRL OUT SOMEWHERE...not a date...just to have fun....if you can't ask one girl to hang out sometime...doing all these cold approaches won't make that first time asking better...you must ask one girl then do cold approaches to build up your game..and then go back and ask a girl to hang...the first time you ask...it should be the second girl on your list....leave the first girl for later...but i don't think doing cold approaches will help you out at this point
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
jeffthechef said:
the reason why im doing cold aproaches is im not dominant enough in conversations im always waiting for the other person to talk then ill respond... i need to learn how to handle conversations with women. bt still dude i made a promise to myself that ill finish 50 cold aproaches once and for all lol.
Costa Rica 2009
it was march break and i went to costa rica to do some volunteer work. during the day all we did was work but at night time we would hit the nightclubs down town. and for the first time in my life i experienced a new environment in meeting girls (club game). my first night in the club was horrible, i had no idea where to position myself cuz all the seats were taken. the night sucked ass i felt like a total loser, i also did some **** i wouldnt do like smoke a cigar. so we left the club went back to the hotel in time for our room check and curfew. I fell on my bed with a sick stomach and feeling like a **** loser, cuz i didnt talk to any girls that night. what was surprising was that they let us in the club, the security didnt give a fvck no one did lol it was awesome lol. so anyways the next night came and i went back to the nightclub, i got a beer in hand and leaned on the corner of the bar, my brother was with me to we started talking with others and made some new friends, btw did i mention that almost everyone in this club was older than me they were all aged from 20-30. all the sudden something unexpected happened people started clapping thats whe i realized that a group of twelve goodlooking women all wearing red shirts and blue shorts were acompanying another lady dressed like a bride it was her bachelor party. the next thing all these girls went around a single table and started talking. wow the whole club was waiting for these girls to hit the dancefloor. anyways i started getting tired of talking to these guys (new firiends aged 27 and 30), not that they were boring people just that i didnt come to a night club to only interact with guys. i wanted to interact and conversate with girls, almost every girl in that nightclub was older than me, this kinda made me a lil more nervous. so i ask all my friends and other guys to acompany me and aproach the table these 13 women were at, they were all standing around the table. them pussies pussied out pffffftt! i was nervous as **** but kept keepin myself cool, and finally i summoned the balls to aproach them.
alot of people in this club were tourists.
I aproached them, there was a small opening:
I smiled and said
me: hey you guys
HB#1: hey with a smile
they understood english but couldnt speak it all that well
me: hows everyone tonight
HB#2: blah blah blah
hopefully out of all the twelve not all of them stopped and stared at me they were ther to have fun and talk which most of them were doing,i started kinoing though while i talked, but then
me: im (name) -offered my hand-
she shook it and introduced herself, forgot her name though, i also shook hands with another girl, i stood in a way as if i was facing the whole group not only the girls i was talking to
me: so are you guys gonna dance?
HB#1: maybe later
me: waiting to get drunk huh? (with smile)
HB#1: yeah (laughing)
me: alright i gotta get back 2 my friends, ill see you
approach 4/50
then i left and i went back to those guys, i could see that some of them were impressed, plus the fact that i was wearing bright blue between a whole group of girls wearing red made me kinda stand out, anyways i got into a lil chitchat with my bro and the other guys. but no i was in the mood for aproaching thats when on the other side of the club, there were a bunch of seats and 3 ladies were sitting there i aproached them
me: hey can you guys speak english?
HB: yes
me: are you fluent? (nervous bullshiiting lol)
HB: yeah
me: I only got 2 minutes then i gotta catch my friends, anyone sitting here? (pointing at the seat beside her)
HB: no you can sit down
me: i wanted a quick female opinion on something? (while leaning back lookin comfortable and relaxed) do you think people dance better when drunk? (I made up the opener right on the spot)
HB:yeah i think they do
me: did i introduce myself? im (name) , (shook hands with her she introduced herself and the other 2 girls shook their hands as well)
me: are you guys gonna dance later tonight?
HB: yeah maybe later
me: waiting to get drunk huh (smilin)
then we had some other chit chat blah blah
dont remember quite
me: allright i gotta get back to my friends, ill see you guys
then i got up and left
the night ended _ it was great i feel like im improving and thats all i need to make my day. PCE
approach 5/50
it was march break and i went to costa rica to do some volunteer work. during the day all we did was work but at night time we would hit the nightclubs down town. and for the first time in my life i experienced a new environment in meeting girls (club game). my first night in the club was horrible, i had no idea where to position myself cuz all the seats were taken. the night sucked ass i felt like a total loser, i also did some **** i wouldnt do like smoke a cigar. so we left the club went back to the hotel in time for our room check and curfew. I fell on my bed with a sick stomach and feeling like a **** loser, cuz i didnt talk to any girls that night. what was surprising was that they let us in the club, the security didnt give a fvck no one did lol it was awesome lol. so anyways the next night came and i went back to the nightclub, i got a beer in hand and leaned on the corner of the bar, my brother was with me to we started talking with others and made some new friends, btw did i mention that almost everyone in this club was older than me they were all aged from 20-30. all the sudden something unexpected happened people started clapping thats whe i realized that a group of twelve goodlooking women all wearing red shirts and blue shorts were acompanying another lady dressed like a bride it was her bachelor party. the next thing all these girls went around a single table and started talking. wow the whole club was waiting for these girls to hit the dancefloor. anyways i started getting tired of talking to these guys (new firiends aged 27 and 30), not that they were boring people just that i didnt come to a night club to only interact with guys. i wanted to interact and conversate with girls, almost every girl in that nightclub was older than me, this kinda made me a lil more nervous. so i ask all my friends and other guys to acompany me and aproach the table these 13 women were at, they were all standing around the table. them pussies pussied out pffffftt! i was nervous as **** but kept keepin myself cool, and finally i summoned the balls to aproach them.
alot of people in this club were tourists.
I aproached them, there was a small opening:
I smiled and said
me: hey you guys
HB#1: hey with a smile
they understood english but couldnt speak it all that well
me: hows everyone tonight
HB#2: blah blah blah
hopefully out of all the twelve not all of them stopped and stared at me they were ther to have fun and talk which most of them were doing,i started kinoing though while i talked, but then
me: im (name) -offered my hand-
she shook it and introduced herself, forgot her name though, i also shook hands with another girl, i stood in a way as if i was facing the whole group not only the girls i was talking to
me: so are you guys gonna dance?
HB#1: maybe later
me: waiting to get drunk huh? (with smile)
HB#1: yeah (laughing)
me: alright i gotta get back 2 my friends, ill see you
approach 4/50
then i left and i went back to those guys, i could see that some of them were impressed, plus the fact that i was wearing bright blue between a whole group of girls wearing red made me kinda stand out, anyways i got into a lil chitchat with my bro and the other guys. but no i was in the mood for aproaching thats when on the other side of the club, there were a bunch of seats and 3 ladies were sitting there i aproached them
me: hey can you guys speak english?
HB: yes
me: are you fluent? (nervous bullshiiting lol)
HB: yeah
me: I only got 2 minutes then i gotta catch my friends, anyone sitting here? (pointing at the seat beside her)
HB: no you can sit down
me: i wanted a quick female opinion on something? (while leaning back lookin comfortable and relaxed) do you think people dance better when drunk? (I made up the opener right on the spot)
HB:yeah i think they do
me: did i introduce myself? im (name) , (shook hands with her she introduced herself and the other 2 girls shook their hands as well)
me: are you guys gonna dance later tonight?
HB: yeah maybe later
me: waiting to get drunk huh (smilin)
then we had some other chit chat blah blah
dont remember quite
me: allright i gotta get back to my friends, ill see you guys
then i got up and left
the night ended _ it was great i feel like im improving and thats all i need to make my day. PCE
approach 5/50
my sixth aproach
we were in a shisha bar, my friend my bro and I were sittin, we had 2 cute persian girls sittin beside.
im to lazy to put on the whol details at the moment but i tried ****y funny and i got results, i got one of their numbers, and i got her number for my friend, so my friend meets her and she tells him i like both of you, me and my friend,( whats funny was i didnt even want her) my friend was surprised, so yeh c+f gives you results, this was my first time using it, and i was also a little nervous, there was a point where i started to shake a little lol, but yeh. ill write down the details as soon as possible, lol btw i think i used one of the silliest openers ever lol, i made it up on the spot lol.but i was less nervous than my first aproach or the time where i was tipsy and aproached those girls in costa rica.
me: hey my friends informed me that you 2 have been staring at the back of my head for 10 minutes straight, (then i pointed at one of them) youre falling in love with me, ( same girl who i number closed lol, i have no idea why i even used that opener lol made it right on the spot, btw they were both sitting behind me)
HB: blah blah....i right it down later as soon as i get the chance it was kinda a long conversation.
aproach 6/50
PCE
we were in a shisha bar, my friend my bro and I were sittin, we had 2 cute persian girls sittin beside.
im to lazy to put on the whol details at the moment but i tried ****y funny and i got results, i got one of their numbers, and i got her number for my friend, so my friend meets her and she tells him i like both of you, me and my friend,( whats funny was i didnt even want her) my friend was surprised, so yeh c+f gives you results, this was my first time using it, and i was also a little nervous, there was a point where i started to shake a little lol, but yeh. ill write down the details as soon as possible, lol btw i think i used one of the silliest openers ever lol, i made it up on the spot lol.but i was less nervous than my first aproach or the time where i was tipsy and aproached those girls in costa rica.
me: hey my friends informed me that you 2 have been staring at the back of my head for 10 minutes straight, (then i pointed at one of them) youre falling in love with me, ( same girl who i number closed lol, i have no idea why i even used that opener lol made it right on the spot, btw they were both sitting behind me)
HB: blah blah....i right it down later as soon as i get the chance it was kinda a long conversation.
aproach 6/50
PCE