As some of you may know ive been in a relationship for about 2 months. Yet, i always want to approach other girls that attend my school. Me and the girl im dating both go to the same school so some people know that were dating and some dont. So today I was faced with a decision, there was a decent attractive HB9 and the doors to our cafeteria open from the inside after school. My girlfriend gone Im wandering around waiting for my ride. My friends are outside so i go outside and as try to go back inside the door was locked. so this HB9 comes out the blue and opens it for me, eye contact smile and everything. I didnt Think much of it. so then im sitting on the bench waiting for my ride, and she sits at the one across from me. At this point im thinking damn do i go approach, yeah i think i will then as i was getting up i was like Sh*t i have a girlfriend. so i ended up not approaching as to being unsure what to do. so when my friend finally arrived i was walking out of the school and i pass her and we make straight eye contact and i flash her a warm smile, she gives one back. IOI? i think so. But anyways what the burning question really is, should i have approached? :box:
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Approaching women while you are in a relationship?
- Thread starter Stingers
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yes you should, you are 16, the girl you are with now wil not be there in the future, get into the habit of approaching, sounding/feeling other women out. you buy a car, a better, sportier one goes by...you want some of that! you are young, dont limit yourself
Young Juan
Senior Don Juan
Yes and no. Don't sh!t where you eat is a common rule, but most def on vacation or out of range. What I wouldn't do is make out or lead her on, just talk to her and maybe flirt a lil. Don't ask for her number, just introduce yourself and get to know her. It's not against the rules for you to meet new girls and be nice/friendly to them, just against the rules to try to fcvk them and get caught.
Scars
Master Don Juan
I have no morals against it. You're in HS too. I don't think it'd ever become a serious problem unless you were married and/or had kids with her. People cheat all the time in HS, it gives them something to talk about. However, as YJ said, "don't sh!t where you eat".
I remember trying to be sneaky about it in HS, but I'm also from a small town. I usually always got caught, no matter what precautions I took. Word would get back to her eventually. If you're fine with being labeled a player, and can deal with drama, then go for it. Just remember it will seriously effect your reputation. If you ever find yourself actually wanting a "good girl", you can kiss that thought goodbye now.
-Scars
I remember trying to be sneaky about it in HS, but I'm also from a small town. I usually always got caught, no matter what precautions I took. Word would get back to her eventually. If you're fine with being labeled a player, and can deal with drama, then go for it. Just remember it will seriously effect your reputation. If you ever find yourself actually wanting a "good girl", you can kiss that thought goodbye now.
-Scars
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.