War Against Betaism
Master Don Juan
Up until just a couple hours ago, I've always had this fear of approaching women. No matter how many times I have done it, that anxiety just kept on attacking with every step I took towards a new women I would meet. This fear has done little to hinder my success to meeting new women, but it was something I would have still liked to get rid of. Getting drunk is fun when you're at a party, but the next morning you feel like sh1t. I'm sure most of us would like to eliminate the feeling of hangovers, but then it would mean you'd have to stop drinking...for a while I thought this principle applied to approaching women as well. Mystery fortified that mindset when he told us that the fear of approaching women will never go away...that's bullsh1t. Just a couple hours ago, I calmly approached these two cute asians girls, got on rapport with them, and left with their numbers. It seemed like another successful approach...without the fear. How did I do it?
Earlier this day at the time of writing this, my friend came over to chill at my house before we met up with our other friends. Since I was bored, I asked her to massage me. It took a little convincing to get her to do it, but she eventually did. Little did I know how great of a massager she was, and she added a bit more by not only massaging my shoulders, but my entire back and neck as well. She later told me that her dad taught her some techniques about massaging people. I felt awesome. In fact, I was so relaxed, a smile naturally came to my face instead of a forced smile I would use as a mask to appear more friendly. We went up to meet our other friends, and sort of kicked it back. Some drama ensued between two of our friends. One of them we really didn't like at all, especially me. We kind of ditched her in the end after some arguing. In addition to the massage that made me feel great before, I felt even greater seeing the friend I really detest being left behind like that. You might be wondering why I'm even telling you this long ass story, don't worry, it's important in overcoming the fear of approaching women.
Later that day, we were just kicking back at my friend's pool. The sun was setting, and the view couldn't be anymore perfect; just kicking it with friends at a pool with the sun setting. I was just so physically and spiritually relaxed at the time, I was in a state of nirvana. One of my friends heads out to get some food for everyone, I went with him because I was hungry myself and wanted first dibs on the food. We went to Carl's Jr, and saw the asian girls from which I've described earlier. I went up, got friendly with them, and got their numbers. At the time, something felt different, particularly the approach. Why wasn't I fearing the approach like I've always have before...then I remembered an important segment in David DeAngelo's "Approaching Women" program, particularly the last disc. It's because I felt so good about myself.
The massage, seeing a long disliked friend finally getting her due, and the view of the sunset, allowed me to be in such a state that's even oblivious to fear of approach. Most of the tips you get on approaching women tell you to just be relaxed, be yourself, breathe deeply, etc. The truth is, most of us aren't relaxed on a daily basis. That's what prevents us from feeling good about ourselves spiritually; because physically, you don't feel good, and that's the truth. I personally find almost all of David DeAngelo's video programs useless, but if you can, please get the last disc on his Approaching Women program, and only watch the guest speaker Sean who's glued onto a wheelchair with his bone structure problem. It carries an hour and a half of some of the most invaluable advice you can ever get in life, literally. I've watched this program about a couple months ago, but it didn't hit me until now what those words truly meant.
So in order to get rid of that fear is to feel good about yourself. Feel that you rule this world [not in a cynical manner], that you can't reach a higher state of success, and that everything else that comes to you is just adding to your wealth. This is the ultimate mindset in becoming an Alpha male in my opinion. This is what most people who come here to ask for help are missing, this mindset. Just literally feel like you're better than everyone else without getting into that jerkass zone. I've personally come up with an exercise to help me try and establish this mindset. I'll spend the next couple months before going to sleep and after I wake up reminiscing on my glorious moments in life or all the times that I've just felt great. This will hopefully get me in the habit of feeling good about myself on a regular basis. I'll try to think of other exercises I can use though.
It would also help tremendously if you invested half an hour of stretching before every morning to loosen up your body so that you can feel good physically. Go on the internet and look for stretches you can use as a daily morning routine. If you want to take it a step further, you can even take some yoga classes, or even take martial arts if you fear that your success with women will be so great that guys will start to want to beat you up :trouble: Hell, if you're even MORE serious about this, you can go buy yourself a giant massage chair. Actually, what might help above all else is just simple meditation for a good 20 minutes. Look it up on the internet on how to properly meditate.
Earlier this day at the time of writing this, my friend came over to chill at my house before we met up with our other friends. Since I was bored, I asked her to massage me. It took a little convincing to get her to do it, but she eventually did. Little did I know how great of a massager she was, and she added a bit more by not only massaging my shoulders, but my entire back and neck as well. She later told me that her dad taught her some techniques about massaging people. I felt awesome. In fact, I was so relaxed, a smile naturally came to my face instead of a forced smile I would use as a mask to appear more friendly. We went up to meet our other friends, and sort of kicked it back. Some drama ensued between two of our friends. One of them we really didn't like at all, especially me. We kind of ditched her in the end after some arguing. In addition to the massage that made me feel great before, I felt even greater seeing the friend I really detest being left behind like that. You might be wondering why I'm even telling you this long ass story, don't worry, it's important in overcoming the fear of approaching women.
Later that day, we were just kicking back at my friend's pool. The sun was setting, and the view couldn't be anymore perfect; just kicking it with friends at a pool with the sun setting. I was just so physically and spiritually relaxed at the time, I was in a state of nirvana. One of my friends heads out to get some food for everyone, I went with him because I was hungry myself and wanted first dibs on the food. We went to Carl's Jr, and saw the asian girls from which I've described earlier. I went up, got friendly with them, and got their numbers. At the time, something felt different, particularly the approach. Why wasn't I fearing the approach like I've always have before...then I remembered an important segment in David DeAngelo's "Approaching Women" program, particularly the last disc. It's because I felt so good about myself.
The massage, seeing a long disliked friend finally getting her due, and the view of the sunset, allowed me to be in such a state that's even oblivious to fear of approach. Most of the tips you get on approaching women tell you to just be relaxed, be yourself, breathe deeply, etc. The truth is, most of us aren't relaxed on a daily basis. That's what prevents us from feeling good about ourselves spiritually; because physically, you don't feel good, and that's the truth. I personally find almost all of David DeAngelo's video programs useless, but if you can, please get the last disc on his Approaching Women program, and only watch the guest speaker Sean who's glued onto a wheelchair with his bone structure problem. It carries an hour and a half of some of the most invaluable advice you can ever get in life, literally. I've watched this program about a couple months ago, but it didn't hit me until now what those words truly meant.
So in order to get rid of that fear is to feel good about yourself. Feel that you rule this world [not in a cynical manner], that you can't reach a higher state of success, and that everything else that comes to you is just adding to your wealth. This is the ultimate mindset in becoming an Alpha male in my opinion. This is what most people who come here to ask for help are missing, this mindset. Just literally feel like you're better than everyone else without getting into that jerkass zone. I've personally come up with an exercise to help me try and establish this mindset. I'll spend the next couple months before going to sleep and after I wake up reminiscing on my glorious moments in life or all the times that I've just felt great. This will hopefully get me in the habit of feeling good about myself on a regular basis. I'll try to think of other exercises I can use though.
It would also help tremendously if you invested half an hour of stretching before every morning to loosen up your body so that you can feel good physically. Go on the internet and look for stretches you can use as a daily morning routine. If you want to take it a step further, you can even take some yoga classes, or even take martial arts if you fear that your success with women will be so great that guys will start to want to beat you up :trouble: Hell, if you're even MORE serious about this, you can go buy yourself a giant massage chair. Actually, what might help above all else is just simple meditation for a good 20 minutes. Look it up on the internet on how to properly meditate.