"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Approaching Women as a Sport

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For everybody that is on this board I can say that 98% are male. Now, I`m sure most like watching sports on TV. And I`m sure that everyone has a favorite team or favorite players in the league whether it is football, basketball, or baseball. Alot of people play professional sports have all kinds of talent which why they were selected in the draft.
Notice if you`re watching a game how players execute plays and strategies and they will either score or kill the play like dropping the ball, missing the basket ,or get struckout. Even though these players have talent, they are not always perfect. THIS JUST LIKE APPROACHING WOMEN. YOU ARE NOT GOING TO SCORE ALLTHE TIME. You can have all techniques and execute them perfectly still will not always get phone numbers or dates. Okay, when you see a player miss the basket do you see him get mad or discouraged? NO because he knows there will be many chances for him to get the ball back and score. If a team loses a game they may become disappointed but they fix the mistakes they made to pull out a win at the next game. So if you`re out there getting rejected by women, don`t feel disappointed and be too hard on yourself. You will get many oppertunities
to score on the next play. Do you know why you have the real advantage? In sports there are LIMITED amount of games to play in a season. There are certain amount of games to win to get to the championship. When it comes to women there is NO LIMIT. So when you out there approaching women , if you get rejected, think of a player that dropped the ball in the fieldzone, think about a player that miss the winning basket in the 4th quarter. Think about the player that got struckout in the ninth inning. You`re as only good as the last time you were approaching women, until you make some improvement on your game and come out on top when it comes to women.

PS. Don`t worry about being rejected in front of people. Sports players make mistakes all the time in front of thousands of fans and millions of people who watch them on TV.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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great post, most people can apply to it. Another point to add is that dont try all these advanced techniques without matering the fundamentals. For all those who know about michael jordan, he said he should have never double pumped faked a jump shot in overtime because now kids will go out and try that and lose the fundamentals, cause most kids at that age don't even know how to shoot properly. So, in dating, we refer to these kids as AFC's.
 

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yo thats ill man. I think I should try that but these girls over here in the hood stay frontin but good looks though.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Thank you!! I just want people to understand that we are social creatures biologically and psychologically, which means it is natural for men and women to court each other. I don`t want anyone to rely on techniques because it kills the instinct of having social abilities, like communication, eye contacts, and kinothetics. That is why they don`t guarantee success. That is why they say attraction isn`t a choice, because it is a biological response to finding a mate as nature sees fit.
 

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This is a very good way to look at the game. Because that is exactly what it is, a game.

I've had times when I did everything right and the girl was interested and everything seems to be going right and I still didn't score for one reason or another.

It's like that sometimes. Hey, like you said, no one is perfect and even the best don't hit the basket, score a touchdown, or hit the ball on every attempt.

That's just life.
 
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