LandingWood
Don Juan
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Lately I've been getting this response and I guess it's cause I'm on a two week dry spell and it shows. How can I prevent this?
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Where do I go when I want some *****?sylvester the cat said:when i'm hungry i go to the supermarket. i have it all planned out. i write my shopping list, i pick up my goods and then i go pay. there's no desperation on my part because i got it all planned out. only time i might look desperate is if the shop is shut or my card got declined.
same principle i guess.
well your thread didn't ask 'where do i go to get pvssy?'. it asked how not to look thirsty.LandingWood said:Where do I go when I want some *****?
I'm 19. Can't really go to clubs. Don't have a huge social circle where I am. Where should I go?
Your analogy doesn't really fit ... I have to approach to get *****.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I don't have an issue coming off as immature. I even look a lot older than I am and it usually helps. It's just that I moved to a new town and my options are 0 and it's showing.salinechow said:With respect as a fellow Beginner Don regardless of your age but I see your problem as a maturity issue. I think though I can help by offering you this advice... Find some older guys and hang out with them. Maybe 24-25-to 30ish. Cousins maybe, trainer? Offer to DD for them maybe if you want to entice them. Anybody let would let you tag along with them a bit. A lot more guys would be willing than you think. I have done it with my younger cousins and my fiends along the way have done it for me. Watch them and mimic. It will help. Even if they themselves are chumps you can still learn the mannerisms of how an adult acts and swaggers. When you get older you start to expect certain things and a level of respect and interaction from people. You will see this and be able to apply it along with what you learn here. You know this at your age, guys always go for the older guy! Learn to act it. Again, with respect dude.
I have to ask, what made you think this was my problem.Espi said:In my opinion your fear of showing interest is likely what's keeping you from becoming confident at pickup.
A DJ, in my opinion, can approach direct, precise, and strong. It's perfectly fine to show strong interest in a female and even come across as aggressive. Neither approach is needy, in my opinion. Some chicks won't like it. Others will, though.
When I approach a hot chick, I know that she already knows what's up. So I rarely ever find it effective to feign disinterest or make jokes about her fake nails in order to trick her into liking me.
Men pursue. We want sex MUCH more than women do--because our bodies are filled with testosterone. This is not a bad thing, in my opinion, because women are attracted to masculinity.
No girl that I know ever rejected me for showing interest or for having a strong sex drive; I DO personally believe, though, that girls have rejected me for appearing timid or uncertain about my sexuality.
Thanks for this. Lately I've been getting wrapped up in this TRP nexting stuff instead of bettering my game.Espi said:I'd personally like to see more discussions like this:
http://www.sosuave.com/articles/at/persistence.htm
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.