"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Approaching without seeming "thirsty"

LandingWood

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Lately I've been getting this response and I guess it's cause I'm on a two week dry spell and it shows. How can I prevent this?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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when i'm hungry i go to the supermarket. i have it all planned out. i write my shopping list, i pick up my goods and then i go pay. there's no desperation on my part because i got it all planned out. only time i might look desperate is if the shop is shut or my card got declined.

same principle i guess.
 

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sylvester the cat said:
when i'm hungry i go to the supermarket. i have it all planned out. i write my shopping list, i pick up my goods and then i go pay. there's no desperation on my part because i got it all planned out. only time i might look desperate is if the shop is shut or my card got declined.

same principle i guess.
Where do I go when I want some *****?
I'm 19. Can't really go to clubs. Don't have a huge social circle where I am. Where should I go?

Your analogy doesn't really fit ... I have to approach to get *****.
 

sylvester the cat

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LandingWood said:
Where do I go when I want some *****?
I'm 19. Can't really go to clubs. Don't have a huge social circle where I am. Where should I go?

Your analogy doesn't really fit ... I have to approach to get *****.
well your thread didn't ask 'where do i go to get pvssy?'. it asked how not to look thirsty.

if it's pvssy you want you got to go where the pvssy is. if you're too young for clubs and you don't have a social circle then either go online or go where the poosy is:

high street
library
beach
shopping mall
salsa
etc

when i was your age i used to work in bars and clubs. i was around poosy and i didn't look thirsty cos i had a reason to be there other than getting laid. i earned money and got laid at the same time. :)
 

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The way I see it

With respect as a fellow Beginner Don regardless of your age but I see your problem as a maturity issue. I think though I can help by offering you this advice... Find some older guys and hang out with them. Maybe 24-25-to 30ish. Cousins maybe, trainer? Offer to DD for them maybe if you want to entice them. Anybody let would let you tag along with them a bit. A lot more guys would be willing than you think. I have done it with my younger cousins and my fiends along the way have done it for me. Watch them and mimic. It will help. Even if they themselves are chumps you can still learn the mannerisms of how an adult acts and swaggers. When you get older you start to expect certain things and a level of respect and interaction from people. You will see this and be able to apply it along with what you learn here. You know this at your age, girls always go for the older guy! Learn to act it. Again, with respect dude.
 
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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salinechow said:
With respect as a fellow Beginner Don regardless of your age but I see your problem as a maturity issue. I think though I can help by offering you this advice... Find some older guys and hang out with them. Maybe 24-25-to 30ish. Cousins maybe, trainer? Offer to DD for them maybe if you want to entice them. Anybody let would let you tag along with them a bit. A lot more guys would be willing than you think. I have done it with my younger cousins and my fiends along the way have done it for me. Watch them and mimic. It will help. Even if they themselves are chumps you can still learn the mannerisms of how an adult acts and swaggers. When you get older you start to expect certain things and a level of respect and interaction from people. You will see this and be able to apply it along with what you learn here. You know this at your age, guys always go for the older guy! Learn to act it. Again, with respect dude.
I don't have an issue coming off as immature. I even look a lot older than I am and it usually helps. It's just that I moved to a new town and my options are 0 and it's showing.
 

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Espi said:
In my opinion your fear of showing interest is likely what's keeping you from becoming confident at pickup.

A DJ, in my opinion, can approach direct, precise, and strong. It's perfectly fine to show strong interest in a female and even come across as aggressive. Neither approach is needy, in my opinion. Some chicks won't like it. Others will, though.

When I approach a hot chick, I know that she already knows what's up. So I rarely ever find it effective to feign disinterest or make jokes about her fake nails in order to trick her into liking me.

Men pursue. We want sex MUCH more than women do--because our bodies are filled with testosterone. This is not a bad thing, in my opinion, because women are attracted to masculinity.

No girl that I know ever rejected me for showing interest or for having a strong sex drive; I DO personally believe, though, that girls have rejected me for appearing timid or uncertain about my sexuality.
I have to ask, what made you think this was my problem.

As soon as I read it I realized that's what my problem is. Thanks man, I'll work on it.
 

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Don't blubber and over talk too. I find my successes is when I've made a woman I approach do most of the talking while guiding the conversation as I let her carry on. We both know my intentions and if she reciprocates, it is up to her to impress you and you to then make the move.
 

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Good link, great commentary as always Espi.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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