Approaching today

[Mr. Ballz]

so on my vacation to Britain this summer i approached to my fill. i met all the kids my age in the small town i visited and cold approached a few girls but i feel like im holding back to much. i have fear i will admit that. this fear was built in my past for not being the most brave kid and now im trying to break this repeating pattern with being more adventurous in my life. i love it but its difficult and i most trully want and will overcome this.

since ive come back from britain (2-3 weeks ago) i havent approached anyone and obviously this is why i cant overcome my fears, im not facing them consistently enough and hard enough to rid myself of this nonsense. ive noticed that im purely an indirect approacher and do hardly any direct. when i approach i work best with situational openers but when i cant think of anything i start making excuses to not 'embarrass' myself. if i was more direct this would not be as much of an issue.

well i am going to the mall today with a wingman and i will approach. i dont know how much but i will approach and my goal is to do a direct approach to start getting that flow going. the fear is all in my head. if i conquer my own mind i can accomplish anything. i will stop my thinking and start to approach. i will not care what happens. even as i write this part of me fears that i cannot accomplish this but i know that is the fear that is stopping me from anything worth doing that i talk myself out of. i cannot let this be an issue any longer. ive been doing this for longer than id like to admit sometimes doing well sometimes but feeling to scared or 'not in the mood' in other situations. I know there is always a tomorrow but if i dont take action now in anything then i will always hope for the future and may end up with nothing at the end.

Well i would appreciate any support but i will approach today with my wingman at the mall and i will do what Krassus kind of did with his autopilot approaching if anybody cares to recall.

i will post back when i am finished with the day. krassus i would enjoy your feedback ive read a lot of ur posts and u seem to have come a long way.

 

[squirrels]

You need to decide you want it. None of this, "Well, I'm going, but I don't know how much I'll talk to women", or you will stand in the corner and not say crap.

 

[Distant Light]

How I always do it, being I still get Approach axiety. I usually just jump into the first decent set that I see and approach with out thinking about what to say (Even though I have default openers) and I just plow through the first set. After that one set you will be able to open any set with no problem because most of the approach axiety is gone. This is why you should always do warmup sets. When you get out there just jump in a set don't think about anything.

Just let your legs move and open your mouth, at that point you've already said something to them so now your stuck so you're going to have to just talk to her since you already started speaking.

 

[Mr. Ballz]

thats good advice distant since i believe a lot in the snowball effect of things like this. appreciate the point of view squirrels.

well it started slow we were searching our grounds and bailing on more than i would like but then my friend opened a 3 set and things just kicked in after that since i couldnt let him one up me. he gave me a line (purely as a joke, not to actually get a number) and i walked up to a 2 set saying 'if i give u a dollar will you promise that if i see you again in this mall u will turn around and walk away so i will never see you again". the confused reaction was quite interesting indeed. opened many other girls in stores and it was a blast. im going to get past this fear.

 

[reallyfreakinlost]

You need to decide you want it. None of this, "Well, I'm going, but I don't know how much I'll talk to women", or you will stand in the corner and not say crap.

I like having nuts in my mouth because I'm a squirrel