Mr.Positive
Master Don Juan
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Because we're men! We take chances in life! We take chances with all women we get involved with..Latinoman said:Mrpositive...why take a chance?![]()
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Because we're men! We take chances in life! We take chances with all women we get involved with..Latinoman said:Mrpositive...why take a chance?![]()
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Thanks On Point..well said.On Point said:I find some of these responses a bit riduculous.
IMO you should approach her just like you would anyone else. The fact that she is a police officer doesn't change that she is a woman. A DJ shouldn't be intimated by someone's profession.
Should you have some success with your approach you should definately take time to get to know her and not rush into things - I agree with the posts pointing out the potential downside, but I don't think you should live in fear of things that might happen, most of them never do.
Intimidation? Hahaha.On Point said:I find some of these responses a bit riduculous.
IMO you should approach her just like you would anyone else. The fact that she is a police officer doesn't change that she is a woman. A DJ shouldn't be intimated by someone's profession.
Should you have some success with your approach you should definately take time to get to know her and not rush into things - I agree with the posts pointing out the potential downside, but I don't think you should live in fear of things that might happen, most of them never do.
This reminds me of an article I read about prostitution. A psychologist interviewed a working girl very candidly about the dynamics of her profession from sexual and emotion points of view.Latinoman said:Here is the thing...I have no issues phucking a co-worker or a married woman....or even a single mother or a woman older than me. But I have issues dealing with lawyers or police officers or private investigators. When I do a clean break...I want it very clean. I know the effect I have in women. And my bad luck is that even after things all over...they STILL want to be in my life.