"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Approaching on the street

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Cry For Love

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Being in the middle of week2 of DJ bootcamp, I find this a most difficult subject. Probably because of lack of experience.

The problem im facing is how to open conversations on the street? In actual venues(libraries, parties, festivals, bookshops, clubs) there is at least some situational unity between me and the people im going to open to. Its easy to open with a situational opener (how do you like the place, what do you think of it, how's it going), but on the street I cant think of a sort of safe opener. I have tried opening a few times for an actual conversation but the reactions have been negative, I get too personal in my convo and it hasnt worked well at all.

So those of you that have experience on those, the hardest kind of approaches, Id appreciate to hear how you opened and carried yourself so that it worked out. YES IM LOOKING FOR SOME CANNED STUFF HERE
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Listen . You're making this difficult for yourself .

This week is not about getting girls or something . Its just having conversation with a stranger . Try it with old people ( they are friendly ) . You can also try with guys . Girls too .

Its easy man . Use opinion openers . They work like charm . I bet you havent try any of them yet . Check the thread on my signature . Its full of openers i used and i still use .

You can also use situational openers . For example , in a bookstore you can ask a girl if she read X book and if she liked it . You can start talking a bit about that book than change the topic or something like that . Its not hard man .

This is very easy . Wait till you see other missions .

So , take it easy . Its not hard to start talking crap with a stranger .

One day , one guy said to me HEY WHERE DID YOU GET THAT SHIRT . I told him . Than he said OH MAN IVE BEEN LOOKING FOR THESE FOR A LONG TIME .
BECAUSE THEY LOOK GOOD , BLLAH BLLAH BLLAH .It was just a friendly conversation .

Maybe he was doing BC
 
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Thanks for the help man. Youre right, ive never used opinion openers and I think they will be mondo useful too, hehe happy sarging :cool:
 
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