"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Approaching groups

ILikeGirls<3

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I see hot girls in groups on the streets in groups of like three, younger than 21 age group, and if I want to approach is the best way to open all of them in a friendly way or focus on one girl? My instincts make me want to walk up to one girl and kind of face her the whole time but this may weird her out. Also, if there are guys in the group I couldnt care less about them so I would prefer to just ignore them, but girls might see this as too forward on the street. So the basic question is: How do I spend my attention with a group on the street approach?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Answers

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The experts say you must approach the leader of the group and gain her approval firstly. You must be friendly with all the group but ignore your target! Basically make the group comfortable with you. Then you can start talking to your target after a while.


I'm really pi***d off thinking back at something that happened me once a few years back in my AFC days. I was with a friend (girl) and she came with 5 of her girl friends! I thought great but beiing an AFC I naturally hadn't a clue what to do.

In the pub near the end of the night I was approached by 2 friendly guys who started chatting to me. 1 left and the other stayed chatting and having a laugh with me. I was surprised how friendly he was and thought it was unusual. After a few minutes though he was mingling with the girls.

To make a long story short after the pub closed I was heading home and he was with 1 of the girls arms around her face to face on the street. I stopped for a chat and he didn't even acknowledge me. He looked to see who was "bothering him" and looked away. To make matters worse the girl he was with was showing interest in me not long before! I wanted to smash his face in there and then as I realised he used me to get to the girls!

Lesson learned!
 

young_gun

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LOL, Answers, I'm glad you posted that. That guy you described has a GREAT strategy!!
 

DonJoseCantosie

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Well you don't have to "ignore" the target at all at first. If u want to go up to her first, just go up to her first. THEN...acknowledge the group so then they know ur a genuine guy...but remember right after u acknowledge the group to go back to ur target girl.
 

Lord Shinra

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Playing zone like that is usually the only thing you can do. I usually give myself a time limit while doing this, this way the time division is equitable. Afterwards, I can begin isolation of the target, and the others are usually very open to it if I played it correctly.

At the very least, I #close.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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