Almost every time I see a girl of interest by herself, shes on the phone texting or talking, or on her laptop, or has her ipod on. I'd feel pretty intrusive if I just walked over and kind of interrupted. Anyone have any ideas on how to deal with this? Or should I just forget it and move on haha.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Approaching girls who seem busy
- Thread starter Mando
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
hey man.
Stop making excuses
If a girl is talking on the phone, its rude to interupt, but you can wait till she finnishes the call then make your approach.
If she is txting, she cant possibly be txting for more than 30 seconds or so, wait till shes finnished if you want, or just approach.
If she is just on her laptop, or reading a book, or doing whatever.. interupt! So long as you are polite, its not an issue!
Deal with it by recognising its really not a problem. Most people are doing somthing all the time, and generally speaking, you can interupt them so long as you do it right.
Good luck
Cure.
Stop making excuses
If a girl is talking on the phone, its rude to interupt, but you can wait till she finnishes the call then make your approach.
If she is txting, she cant possibly be txting for more than 30 seconds or so, wait till shes finnished if you want, or just approach.
If she is just on her laptop, or reading a book, or doing whatever.. interupt! So long as you are polite, its not an issue!
Deal with it by recognising its really not a problem. Most people are doing somthing all the time, and generally speaking, you can interupt them so long as you do it right.
Good luck
Cure.
Don't let the thought of her BEING constantly engaged in phone talking, sms'ing GET IN YOUR WAY.
Just approach, tease her about how she must be very good with words since she's always glued to the phone etc.
Then, introduce yourself, e-mail/number swap.
Follow up later on your first date and get to know each other better.
Just approach, tease her about how she must be very good with words since she's always glued to the phone etc.
Then, introduce yourself, e-mail/number swap.
Follow up later on your first date and get to know each other better.
MAN_OF_TOMMOROW
Don Juan
Yah! everytime I see a a girl of interest, shes BUSY on the phone or doing other. Heck, the majority of females I see, are always on the phone or just not approachable for different reasons via street, mall, bus stop etc. I'm starting to think this is a shield? or just a look some girls want to portray that they're busy?
I knew a girl once that would ring her voicemail or top-up service just to be seen on the phone and do this over lol. When you leave your house today, have a look around at how many women are on the phone, not just the hb's, but every single one - its unbelievable.
I knew a girl once that would ring her voicemail or top-up service just to be seen on the phone and do this over lol. When you leave your house today, have a look around at how many women are on the phone, not just the hb's, but every single one - its unbelievable.
MAN_OF_TOMMOROW
Don Juan
She cant be txting for more than 30 seconds or so? What!?Cure said:hey man.
Stop making excuses
If a girl is talking on the phone, its rude to interupt, but you can wait till she finnishes the call then make your approach.
If she is txting, she cant possibly be txting for more than 30 seconds or so, wait till shes finnished if you want, or just approach.
If she is just on her laptop, or reading a book, or doing whatever.. interupt! So long as you are polite, its not an issue!
Deal with it by recognising its really not a problem. Most people are doing somthing all the time, and generally speaking, you can interupt them so long as you do it right.
Good luck
Cure.
So long as you are polite, its not an issue That would probably be the ISSUE, I'd rather be the joker and get rejected than be polite-innocent, interrupt and then get rejected.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Energizer
Guest
Why do you think girls always want to be seen on the phone?
MAN_OF_TOMMOROW
Don Juan
To portray that they're BUSY maybe? some of the time anyway :nervous:Energizer said:
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Energizer
Guest
I gathered that mate, what I wanna know is what is the reason behind them doing so? I assume it is to ward off people sniffing around, but I'm usually off the mark.
MAN_OF_TOMMOROW
Don Juan
Yes more than likely. . . As I said, its a shield - which just needs to be broken down.Energizer said: