"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Approaching girls in foreign countries (in English)

GamePlan

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I used to be interested in foreign languages (speak 2 of them), however I'm not going to learn another one, because I have to deal with college and continuing to work on my social skills (which seems far more important to me at the moment) and of course I also need a bit of free time to enjoy life...

However, I had this thought: If you're really absolutely confident approaching people, have you ever been to a foreign country and just approached girls there by talking to them in English (I mean not just one approach, but just approaching away until you found someone who did speak it well).

Of course, the success rate will be rather low (depending on the country), but it seems to me like not that difficult a situation to approach a good-looking girl in another country by simply asking them "Hi, can you speak English? I'm trying to find somebody who can" (maybe learn that phrase and also "I'm sorry I can't speak your language" in their native tongue to be polite).

So the theory is you'll be able to get to know more people/girls in a foreign country by simply having great social skills and doing this than by knowing the language, but not being able to approach them (ok kind of a non-brainer...).

Maybe that seems rather strange, but I can actually picture myself asking that question say a couple dozen girls a day (until you find somebody who says: yes) and it actually seems less difficult to pull off than some other stuff that I'll be doing to work on my social skills...it's a bit an awkward situation, but I dont find it that awkward, because well you have even a pretext to approach them, after all (you're a stranger there and all).

Anybody ever done something like this?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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strey

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i always say hi in their language then ask them if they speak english. i think when they see you speak their language at first, its better.
 

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I've never done it abroad, but I've pulled foreign girls over here.
But if you go on holiday you usually learn those two phrases, "hello" and "do you speak English?", as standard. Would be a simple opener, then you could ask for advice.

My gf is foreign, and I spoke to her in English; her second language :)
 
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