Approaching approching approaching, man im tired of it

[Plain & Simple]

Lately ive been approaching hotties everyday not physicly but from my car, every time i see a hottie on the street or at a bus stop or wherever ill try to start a conversation with them, but its hard as hell, they all stuck up and some dont even wanna talk to you even when u are as nice as u can get to them.

They think that they are the **** just cause they are being approached, its gotten to the point that ive come to this theory.

You cannot get a girl or a girl number on the street, unless u both are at a bus stop, other than that the only place would be a mall, a supermarket, or a club, places like that, but not in the street.

In all my tries ive only get one to get in my car out of like 7 or 10 that ive tried, one stoped and had a convo with me and lookes like she wanted to get in but she didnt and ended up asking me for my number, cause she didnt wanna give hers, but thats it.


Any tips in how to overcome this situation

 

[griffon65]

Look at the DJ bible for details. But a lil bit of info. Girls are different then guys. Even if a girl wants sex she wont tell you, and if you "try" to have sex with her, she'll reject you. You have to make it look like your not trying.

Its obvious to me that these girls that you are approaching can tell from the first 5 seconds of talking to you that your "trying" to hit on them like a million other guys. Make it look like your not trying and you'll see a lot more success.

 

[OneArmDeeJay]

Re: Re: Approaching approching approaching, man im tired of it

Originally posted by 007~JC
Dude...wtf are you trying to pick up hookers??

-007

:crackup:

I think he's been listing to too much 50 Cent (song: B!tch get in my Car!) Great song.

Aww man, anyways, have desire but do not show it. Remember there are a lot of guys that try to hit that so be different then all the other guys. And try picking them up when there stopped at a crosswalk or just standing there.

Also how are you approaching? Examples of openers you’re using? Are you simi-smiling? How are you dressed?

 

[Plain & Simple]

well normally ill say " excuse me miss" sometimes they play deaf so i say again in a louder but not screaming, still very respectfully "Excuse me miss" then when they look ill say " How are u doing" and then thats when they say Fine good etc... or they just keep quiet and dont say a word and keep walking.

Yesterday i tried a new one i sad " excuse me miss" she looked but she kept walking so i drove by her and pulled at a parking spot, ahead, wich she was gonna past so when she was passing i said again "excuse me miss" she looked but kept walking so i said "Can i ask you a question, just one question" so she could stop, she stoped and i told her to come over to the car she walked a few steps, i said "whats your name" she said her name, but as soon as she did she started walking again and left. I tried to keep the convo but she said "you said u was gonna ask me 1 question"


Normally im in my workclothes since i do it when im on brake going or coming fromo work.

But hell it aint much u can say from a car, to them other than hi how u doing etc... if they dont wanna stop then i cant do nothing.

And im not gonna get out the car in the middle of the street and w alk behind her chasing her, ima look like a killer or stalker or something, thats why i try to sound as respectful as i can possibly be when i talk to them, since they might be thinking "i dont know this guy and he wants me to get in his car"

 

[h2o]

Originally posted by Plain & Simple
well normally ill say " excuse me miss" sometimes they play deaf so i say again in a louder but not screaming, still very respectfully "Excuse me miss" then when they look ill say " How are u doing" and then thats when they say Fine good etc... or they just keep quiet and dont say a word and keep walking.

Yesterday i tried a new one i sad " excuse me miss" she looked but she kept walking so i drove by her and pulled at a parking spot, ahead, wich she was gonna past so when she was passing i said again "excuse me miss" she looked but kept walking so i said "Can i ask you a question, just one question" so she could stop, she stoped and i told her to come over to the car she walked a few steps, i said "whats your name" she said her name, but as soon as she did she started walking again and left. I tried to keep the convo but she said "you said u was gonna ask me 1 question"


Normally im in my workclothes since i do it when im on brake going or coming fromo work.

But hell it aint much u can say from a car, to them other than hi how u doing etc... if they dont wanna stop then i cant do nothing.

And im not gonna get out the car in the middle of the street and w alk behind her chasing her, ima look like a killer or stalker or something, thats why i try to sound as respectful as i can possibly be when i talk to them, since they might be thinking "i dont know this guy and he wants me to get in his car"

Well then don't do it when you're on your way home / on break from work.

Go out on the weekends or on Friday nights. Look good, go to a good spot where you know there are a lot of people, and hot women. And, please, get out of your car. You're wasting your time if you're only going to do approaches from your car.

Don't open with "excuse me." Instead, try to make some eyecontact or smile before you approach if you can. That will cut your rejection rate. What's even better is if you can wave at them before you approach. Approach stationary targets. Forget about girls that are walking, unless she is clearly holding eyecontact, etc.

To pickup a girl you need some rapport, whether it's verbal, or physical (ie, kino, kissing). But do be playful with her, joke, have a good conversation for a good few minutes.

and most of all, have fun. From your initial post it sounded like you are treating this like a second job. If you do this, your demeanor will show through, and chicks don't dig that...I've tried doing approaches on a sh*tty day before, and it just doesn't fly well. You gotta be able to smile, and have a good time with them. If you don't feel like doing it, then don't.

 

[MacAvoy]

Trying to approach women in your car makes you look like a PERVERT. Dirty old men do that. Get out of your car and meet them at their level, eye to eye. Your success rate will likely triple at least.

 

[G-Man UK]

Originally posted by Plain & Simple
Lately ive been approaching hotties everyday not physicly but from my car, every time i see a hottie on the street or at a bus stop or wherever ill try to start a conversation with them, but its hard as hell, they all stuck up and some dont even wanna talk to you even when u are as nice as u can get to them.

They think that they are the **** just cause they are being approached, its gotten to the point that ive come to this theory.

You cannot get a girl or a girl number on the street, unless u both are at a bus stop, other than that the only place would be a mall, a supermarket, or a club, places like that, but not in the street.

In all my tries ive only get one to get in my car out of like 7 or 10 that ive tried, one stoped and had a convo with me and lookes like she wanted to get in but she didnt and ended up asking me for my number, cause she didnt wanna give hers, but thats it.


Any tips in how to overcome this situation

Muppet.

Get your ass out of the car, for all they know you might be some psycho HB napper.

Get your act together.

G-man

 

[Life-Trainee]

You're doing it all wrong! Drive up by the girl you like and tell her "Hey there 'lil girl, your ma told me to pick you up. 'git in!"

 

[GropeDope]

Plain & Simple...bro you live in Miami of all places. Do you know how often the HBs down there get hassled by horny losers that roll down their car windows? I'm willing to bet that 90% of all HBs who have walked down a busy street in Miami have been hit on/honked at by someone in a passing car at least once a month. Doing this is the same as a pack of construction workers whistling like animals when they see one walking by. You're just going to be ignored and you're going to make them uncomfortable.

Unless they're slutty or gold diggers, they will ignore anyone who tries to talk to them while driving by in their car either out of fear or because it makes them feel like skanks, unless you're in a Ferrari or some flashy hot expensive whip. Also, most people in Miami drive cars, so it's not like you're reinventing the wheel here.

On the other hand...have you tried hitting on an HB while you were in a car and you pulled up next to her while she was in ANOTHER car? You might be slightly more successful doing that since they feel more security in the fact that they can drive away or roll their window up. But trying to approach one FROM YOUR CAR that is on the street is just going to make them think you're psycho.

What kind of car do you drive anyway?

 

[I'm Joe Dirt]

Funny TRUE story I'm about to tell you that relates to the topic of picking up girls in cars.

I was standing at a bus stop in the morning when a TOTAL HOTTIE was wakling on the street, she had like a shirt showing off a lot of body and stuff. Totally sexy.

So I am standing there and looking, not a lot of traffic out since its early and there is a car with a 25ish looking guy in there who honks and waves to her, so she smiles and waves back not knowing whats going on and keeps walking.

This guy took it as a cue she wants to bonk him apparently, so he made a U-Turn on a major intersection sped off and turned sharply into a side street right as she finished crossing it, jumped out of the car and RAN after her.

I didn't catch the dialogue but she didn't even turn around once she saw that he got out of the car and just kept walking with a faster pace. He ran a few seconds and then stopped, turned around, and disappointed walked back into his car and took off.

TRUE STORY.

My point is: DONT BE THAT GUY!

lol


Umm it looks like you were trying to open with comfort, trying to build rapport and comfort with her by saying how are you and stuff. That's bad. That's why you get the b1tch shield. Didn't you learn the Mystery method? lol

 

[Broham]

Yeah, sorry dude but you're living in 90210-land. Girls are gonna think you are a stalker/psycho. If you're a celebrity though, you're all set.

 

[Austizzle]

Lol, my parents told me to never talk to strangers who offered me a ride in their car...get the drift?

 

[Kuen1]

Tell them that you have some kitty cats in the car and to come take a look. When they get close to the car then reach out of the window in a very fast and jerky motion to try and grab them.
Works like a charm.

It's how I done met my missy.

 

[pimpfromdayone]

Dude, don't be frustrated, you can still learn. First of all, honking at hot chicks and talking to girls on the street/in other cars is amusing, especially if you're in a nice car, but you're not gonna get anywhere doing that. The woman doesn't feel safe sometimes, and you need to learn one rule: never compromise a woman's feeling of security for you own... meaning, while you sit comfortably and confidently in a car, the woman has her guard up even higher because she is much less safe than you. Hard to explain, easy to understand. Also, if nothing else, if you can only get girls from your car, it makes you look like a complete and desperate loser. You need to approach and mingle with women in everyday settings like the rest of us. If you completely suck and can't do anything else, go to some parties and clubs and get the easy-ass women that frequent those places.... that's what most guys do anyway, no trick to that.

Now that I have told you that, you need to learn a couple things about the actual approach. When you talk to a girl, why in the world do you say,"excuse me"? Do I even need to tell you that that sounds COMPLETELY unnatural and unconfident? It sounds like you're afraid you're bothering them or something. If they act like that, fuc-kem, move on. You're the dam-n king, you don't let yourself worry about how you might cause some people minor inconveniences. Most women will at least be friendly. They are normal people and no better than you, talk to them with that attitude. At the same time, you need to work on sounding less desperate. Talking normally to them, like the 100 other guys that hit on her might get you somewhere every now and then, but you need to learn to talk to them almost like you're better than them and you are too important to even need them.... treat them "like your bratty little sister." Learn to tease, make fun (lightly), and be coc-ky/funny with these girls WHEN YOU FIRST MEET THEM. You can be pretty nice, but you need more than "nice" to get with them. If you approach with no confidence and "u are as nice as u can get to them," forget it, you're gonna get brushed off like nothing. Do something to catch their attention, get a reaction out of them, be different. Your opener can be incredibly simple like "hi," but to be as natural as possible, I always use a "situational opener" which is where you take something from the situation to say to them. It can be really simple, like about the weather, a football game, or, if you're more advanced, you can start by teasing them about something. The point is, there is no one right thing to say. If you're all over them and worshipping them from the first sentence by saying something like "excuse me...," they will never give you a second glance. You've heard: be a challenge. Well, that doesn't mean necessarily to turn them down at every possible opportunity and never call them (haha). It means to be your own man and never let them think you are crazy about them. It means, show them a little interest (this is inevitable of course) but don't be seen trying really hard to get them. I don't know why I post so much, but you need help and I want to help you so there you go. Read the rest of the boards too.