"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Approaching a woman after someone else just approached?

warrior1

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okay i know there are just a few guys that have guts to go and approach women whether its in the train station or the bus stop or the streets. I never done it before. I think about a month ago in a train station there was this real attractive woman and I was just walking and noticed her.

There was a guy that was talking to her and had his phone with him and I think he cold approached her when I was walking towards that end. He was smiling A LOT and the woman did talk to him and seemed happy. A lot of people was watching too and then she just went her way to another part of the train station.

My question is is it always a bad idea to approach a woman that JUST has been approached 2 minutees ago? I know its better to take a shot since theres nothing to lose but whats your opinion on this situation?

I don't think i ever heard of this situation addressed in this board.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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warrior1

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because this situation was really awkward. If i was a woman and just been approached and another guy comes talks to me in 2 miniutes, it makes everything seem so easy for me.
 

The Nice Guy is Gone

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It's going to be awkward for you until you start.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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NickBe

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What is the difference? You can work it in your favor, especially if she just rejected the guy.

'That was harsh, the guy asked for your number and you turned him down! I saw him over in the corner crying. You are kind of sadistic'...

That would get a laugh.
 

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There's ALWAYS a way. Have you seen the movie "Hitch"? Will Smith aproaches a chick (Eva Mendez) at the club who is rejecting some persistant guy. I'm saying Will Smith INTERRUPTS another approach and gets the chick! Can you fvcking believe that?!
 

speakeasy

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lyamdb said:
There's ALWAYS a way. Have you seen the movie "Hitch"? Will Smith aproaches a chick (Eva Mendez) at the club who is rejecting some persistant guy. I'm saying Will Smith INTERRUPTS another approach and gets the chick! Can you fvcking believe that?!
Uhh...that was just a fictional movie, dude.

But to answer the OP's question, isn't that the norm in bars and clubs anyway? Women get approached by guys, you might be the 4th guy that hit on them that night.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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