"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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approaches (cold/semicold)

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i have fallen (sharply) to afc status by the long term choice if inaction & ltr(s). being totally fed up with this i thankfully found this site, bootcamp, and am waiting fot the 'How to be the bad boy...' book in the mail.
because i don't drink, have no/few friends currently, live on a huge campus but don't go to school, i think i am a great example. im late 20s & goodlooking. i have rarely been popular, but that's what being an afc is i think, not popular!

i had two cold approaches today, one was before i read the cold approaches archive post and one after/during...

1)at the coffee shop, while reading the DJ discussion, i started talking to a HB6/7 who was studying behind me, i didn't ask for a #, and ended the short convo as i became nervous.

2)at one of the campus libraries the librarian(hb6/7) started talking to me when i came in, so a liitle later i cold(?) approached her, asked her if she was single, got a considered yes, then i went blank (nervous again!), my tone was screwy anyway and i # number closed but got a "how old r u?"...i tried to flip it but she wouldn't budge so i came with 27 to her 21... then it got bad as i tried to convince her i wasn't to old, then i bailed and she was still happy i had asked

*i assume my nerves will cool with action repeated, boot camp, the dj bible and i do feel better/more confident.

?---do DJ skillz apply to being bullied ie being socially excluded at work?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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being popular is a relative term. if you're happy with the size of your social circle, I wouldn't worry.

approach anxiety gets easier to deal with as time goes by. you get used to it, though i wouldn't say it ever entirely goes away.

good job on the approaches, even though they were rough. keep it up.
 
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If you keep approaching two chicks a day you'll lose the nerves in no time.

When a chick asks me how old I am I always wildly exaggerate and say 87, or something. Then I bet that I can guess her age and take all kinds of time -- and do some light kino -- examining her from top to bottom, then guess something ridiculous like 13. If its more than one chick I'll go 13, 13... 7.

Remember, when they're asking you questions they're inviting your response, the door's still open, even if just a crack...
 
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