I've not been the type to approach 100 girls a week or something like that, but I usually approach the girls that I'm interested in. Although I haven't been that sucessful with those girls, I only have girls that I don't really consider attractive talk to me. Am I shooting too high? I don't want to sound arrogant, but do girls approach people on their level or what?
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Approached by only ugly girls!!
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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this has been discussed tons of times, but i'm bored so i'll answer anyway.
i've been approached by plain janes too, but it's all good.
besides, the ugly ones usually have hot friends...i'm terrible at befriending girls (ie, trying to get into the friendzone) without hurting their feelings down the road...but if you can do this, do so and get to know their hb friends
hot girls...in my experience (and probably the more insecure ones) like hanging out with ugly girls, sometimes to boost their own egos
take the opportunities you get.
and maybe they see you as a friendly guy who is approachable, that's never a bad thing.
lastly, i gotta say...as stupid as this may sound to you...all girls have pvssies, even if she's not the most darn attractive girl, think about the times at night when you're lying alone in bed and just want something to 'hit' ...at those times would you really care if she was that hot, or okay looking?
i doubt it. not that i'm saying settle...but if plain janes are all that's coming your way currently, don't turn it down...it won't kill you, and if you can take it, it can be a great learning experience / practice.
are these girls really really butt ugly, or are they just plain looking?
when you're kissing a girl, you close your eyes anyway, so it's not like it matters that much what her face looks like, as much as it matters whether or not she's a sensual kisser.
p.s. don't be so shallow
i've been approached by plain janes too, but it's all good.
besides, the ugly ones usually have hot friends...i'm terrible at befriending girls (ie, trying to get into the friendzone) without hurting their feelings down the road...but if you can do this, do so and get to know their hb friends
hot girls...in my experience (and probably the more insecure ones) like hanging out with ugly girls, sometimes to boost their own egos
take the opportunities you get.
and maybe they see you as a friendly guy who is approachable, that's never a bad thing.
lastly, i gotta say...as stupid as this may sound to you...all girls have pvssies, even if she's not the most darn attractive girl, think about the times at night when you're lying alone in bed and just want something to 'hit' ...at those times would you really care if she was that hot, or okay looking?
i doubt it. not that i'm saying settle...but if plain janes are all that's coming your way currently, don't turn it down...it won't kill you, and if you can take it, it can be a great learning experience / practice.
are these girls really really butt ugly, or are they just plain looking?
when you're kissing a girl, you close your eyes anyway, so it's not like it matters that much what her face looks like, as much as it matters whether or not she's a sensual kisser.
p.s. don't be so shallow
darth yoda
Don Juan
Get better looking, and come back and tell us what happens.
How do you do that? Bulk up if you are too thin, lose weight and get toned if you're too fat. Do hair, face, and wardrobe improvements. Change your attitude, etc...
This has been gone over before, do a search and I'm sure you'll find something on it.
How do you do that? Bulk up if you are too thin, lose weight and get toned if you're too fat. Do hair, face, and wardrobe improvements. Change your attitude, etc...
This has been gone over before, do a search and I'm sure you'll find something on it.
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UGs have basically the exact same hardwirings, reactions, attraction switches, and emotions as 10s. Only the wrapper and their life experience is different.
My suggestion would be to be polite, friendly, and practice your game on them. Remember, there are probably some women out there who think you are ugly too, just like some probably think you are gorgeous. Be nice.
My suggestion would be to be polite, friendly, and practice your game on them. Remember, there are probably some women out there who think you are ugly too, just like some probably think you are gorgeous. Be nice.
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I don't get approached by them, period. Sometimes, UGs have the balls to flirt with me but often i'm late on the cue.
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Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
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Yes they doOriginally posted by tobby
I don't want to sound arrogant, but do girls approach people on their level or what?
I posted numerous times in the last thread discussing this subject.
Every once in a while it is possible that you could be approached by an ugly girl that is completely delusional about the way she looks but for the most part girls will only show interest in guys that they feel are in their league. If fat chicks hit on you often, you might be decent looking but you are most likely far from great looking.
Re: Re: Approached by only ugly girls!!
Also, some women do not care, they like a guy and will go after him... just like a hot woman can hit on a guy. I'm not saying that you are completely off target but from my experience, there are a lot of reasons why a below average woman would ask an above average guy out.
To some degree, I'm going to have to disagree with this statement. The reason some "UG" or "fat chicks" hit on guys is not because they feel he is in their league. Sometimes is a man portrays a "nice" guy image, these types of women are not afraid to take a chance with him. They see him as the guy who doesn't really care about looks. I have seen a lot of my great looking guy friends get hit on my average or below average women.Originally posted by Fatality
Yes they do
I posted numerous times in the last thread discussing this subject.
Every once in a while it is possible that you could be approached by an ugly girl that is completely delusional about the way she looks but for the most part girls will only show interest in guys that they feel are in their league. If fat chicks hit on you often, you might be decent looking but you are most likely far from great looking.
Also, some women do not care, they like a guy and will go after him... just like a hot woman can hit on a guy. I'm not saying that you are completely off target but from my experience, there are a lot of reasons why a below average woman would ask an above average guy out.
darth yoda
Don Juan
Re: Re: Re: Approached by only ugly girls!!
Yes, either you need to gets your looks up to par, or stop portraying the "nice guy" image. Perhaps both.
Not saying you have to be a total jerk, but definetly not the nice guy routine.
Yes, either you need to gets your looks up to par, or stop portraying the "nice guy" image. Perhaps both.
Not saying you have to be a total jerk, but definetly not the nice guy routine.
Re: Re: Re: Approached by only ugly girls!!
I still say a Brad Pitt lookalike will not get hit on by fat chicks. Decent looking guys that look friendly yeah but not great looking guys.
You make a good point. This reminds me of an old friend of mine that often got hit on by ugly chicks. He was a total nice guy and you could tell. He was always rejected by hot chicks because they could tell that he was very nice and insecure. He was good looking but you could tell he was weak.Originally posted by Vince
To some degree, I'm going to have to disagree with this statement. The reason some "UG" or "fat chicks" hit on guys is not because they feel he is in their league. Sometimes is a man portrays a "nice" guy image, these types of women are not afraid to take a chance with him. They see him as the guy who doesn't really care about looks. I have seen a lot of my great looking guy friends get hit on my average or below average women.
Also, some women do not care, they like a guy and will go after him... just like a hot woman can hit on a guy. I'm not saying that you are completely off target but from my experience, there are a lot of reasons why a below average woman would ask an above average guy out.
I still say a Brad Pitt lookalike will not get hit on by fat chicks. Decent looking guys that look friendly yeah but not great looking guys.
animal crackers
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Honestly you're lucky.
I very VERY rarely get actually approached by girls. Idk why maybe I don't seem friendly or approachable or something.
I have been in the past, but I usually only get a lot of ec if they are interested. I have to make the first move.
So, you know girls find you attractive theres nothing bad about UGs approaching you.
I very VERY rarely get actually approached by girls. Idk why maybe I don't seem friendly or approachable or something.
I have been in the past, but I usually only get a lot of ec if they are interested. I have to make the first move.
So, you know girls find you attractive theres nothing bad about UGs approaching you.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Re: Re: Re: Re: Approached by only ugly girls!!
I have had both model and procheerleader women ask me out and FC and UG ask me out. Each woman is different and I don't feel it neccessarily has to do with an "in your league factor".
If you felt a woman was out of your league, would you--in general-- still hit on her? If you don't hit on her, it wouldn't be because you think she is out of your league, it would be because you afraid of the rejection.
As strange as it may seem, I believe "UGirls" and "FChicks" would hit on Brad Pitt. Of course it might be rare....but I notice that the more average women do more flirting and asking out than hotter women. It's because the hot women have never had to ask anyone out or rarely do; they have always had men come to them. So, SOME hot women do not have the skills or confidence needed. However, some of the average and below average women will go for it...some are just outgoing and have already gotten used to asking men out. Some are desperate like an AFC.Originally posted by Fatality
You make a good point. This reminds me of an old friend of mine that often got hit on by ugly chicks. He was a total nice guy and you could tell. He was always rejected by hot chicks because they could tell that he was very nice and insecure. He was good looking but you could tell he was weak.
I still say a Brad Pitt lookalike will not get hit on by fat chicks. Decent looking guys that look friendly yeah but not great looking guys.
I have had both model and procheerleader women ask me out and FC and UG ask me out. Each woman is different and I don't feel it neccessarily has to do with an "in your league factor".
If you felt a woman was out of your league, would you--in general-- still hit on her? If you don't hit on her, it wouldn't be because you think she is out of your league, it would be because you afraid of the rejection.
They probabaly are intimidated by you. With the FR's and pics you've been posting lately it's obvious that you can get chicks so I highly doubt they aren't approaching you because they find you to be unattractive.Originally posted by animal crackers
Honestly you're lucky.
I very VERY rarely get actually approached by girls. Idk why maybe I don't seem friendly or approachable or something.
I have been in the past, but I usually only get a lot of ec if they are interested. I have to make the first move.
So, you know girls find you attractive theres nothing bad about UGs approaching you.