Approach to social circle

[jhonny9546]

Let's imagine your city has 10 gyms, and each gym has 1,000 members.
We have two individuals with very different approaches:

John: He's been going to the same gym for 10 years. Over that time, he's met about 100 people and formed close friendships with 10 of them. He's a well-known and respected figure within that single gym.

Mark: He goes to a different gym every year, cycling through all 10 gyms over a decade. He's met around 1,000 people in total and made friends with about 100. While he has a wide network of friends, he's not a central figure in any one gym, but is generally considered a friendly and approachable guy.

Which approach, John's or Mark's, is better if your goals are to maximize exposure to new people, establish true friendships, meet new women and expand your community? Would you rather be John or Mark?




(we could replace gym with everything that comes to your mind like "art club", "fishing club", "tennis club", etc etc)

 

[AureliusMaximus]

Gyms are horrible to meet people everyone have headphones or earbuds on and are just in general not approachable (Both men and women). Find your social circle else where in other sports / sport clubs or other hobbies where guys interact on their free spare time.

 

[AureliusMaximus]

It just depends honestly, I've approached in gyms and have gotten great results.

Its kind of risky too because "Don't sheite where you eat" sort of thing. If things turn bad you might need to change gym.

 

[The_Sea_Wolf]

The wider the net you can cast the better. This is because if you find that there becomes some kind of a hostile situation, say the gym club or what ever the venue is comes under new management and you find yourself for what ever reason unable to go back there, you lose 100% of your circle, where as if that venue was 10% that is all you lost and that can be replaced.

Same concept as spinning plates.

 

[jhonny9546]

I also thought that Mark's option was the best. But by always staying in one place, then you naturally become the "veteran" and if you are good socially, you have a much higher position in the same place, rather than in a new place every time. And you also see people coming and going around you.
It's as if John acquires more value, obviously in the same place, compared to Mark who has less value but is in more places.

 

[AureliusMaximus]

Things have gone bad and I haven't had to change gyms. After fvcking her you already win, if things go bad just ignore her, but if you want things to go really bad, bring another girl with you

True and good and dandy as long as she does blame you for something bad.
Men are often sentenced without proof when it comes to chicks blaming them for various fake claims. So that's the risk.

 

[Travel memoir21]

I personally feel like Mark better. If you're always traveling from one place to another and having great memories....that's sorta James Bond-Rockstar persona right there....and you've got a much larger Social network and social media collection you can turn to for needed resources in the future.