Approach statistics. How many you need to do to get a date? And prize mentality.

[Aiken_Drum]

I read the whole Anti Dump's Machine post the other day (one of the best series of posts by far) and found a very interesting concept.
Let me quote our beloved Pook:

100:10:3:1 This is a well rounded number. 100 means the number of girls you must approach and talk to. They all must be single (to your knowledge) and you must be physically interested in them. Yes, go through a hundred of them. It could be a quick conversation or could be you getting their numbers. The Machine works best with larger numbers. The 10 stands for the girls that will date you. The 3 stands for how many girls that you dated will be ‘buying’ you. And the 1 stands for the one you end up with. (The point of this is to keep it all in perspective. Approach MANY girls. People think two or three is many. That is why I put down some numbers.)

I totally agree with Pook. I think my rate is somewhere along the above lines... 100 approaches, 10 turn into dates, 3 would do me.

So I believe it's a very interesting point to consider.

My main sticking point right now is not doing enough approaches. I may go out on a night out, do a good number, get mixed results.
But the problem is that I get into DJ mode during the day. It sometimes takes me a lot of conscious effort to switch to DJ.
But when I do... ! Girls are MUCH MUCH easier on the day (or if they are somewhat acquainted to you) that on the club scene.

So I think that it's a GREAT idea to keep the statistics in mind to get reality into perspective. So what if 5 girls rejected you in the worst possible way? That's 5 less (more or so) before you get this weeks date .

Also, we sometimes need to detach ourselves from the result. Obviously, the way an approach goes (whether we get our desired objective, be it a phone number, kclose, fclose, whatever) is dictated by our actions, it is also dependent on the girl's world.

Perhaps she's the most faithful girl in the world (in that case, I'm happy I get rejected, we should get more of their type ), she might be lesbian, she might be too busy to talk to you right now, a familiar is very sick so she feels so awful she can't speak, she might be super shy and intimidated by you, etc. I mean, YES, you could have messed up like an drunk AFC, but why must it always be that way? Is that the way of the prize?
No! We sometimes MUST assume, in order to retain a confident mindset, that the problem was the other person. Otherwise, when are we going to put value into ourselves? AFTER we get that cool car, that weird hairdo we saw in a movie, all those fancy speed seduction maneuvers, some nice routines... why can we be loved or ****ed right now??? Why MUST there always be some hidden, terrible thing about us that STOPS us from getting what we want???!!!

I say, let us go out there and get results BEFORE being perfect... because girls aren't either...
I'm not saying stop doing self improvement... but why can't we SEE that our main problem is often not that we are flawed, but that we SEE ourselves so flawed that we must overcompensate by adding fancy techniques & clothes on top of us so we are worthy of love and sex.

Is that prize mentality?
NO!
Prize mentality IS the main component in a good seduction. NOTHING, and I really mean it, NOTHING is as important.
You consider yourself the prize? You won't take any **** from ANYONE, because you are too good to be threated any other way than with RESPECT.
Also, you'll be able to do approaches with ease... remember, girls are lucky to be in your presence. You are giving them the opportunity to meet a wonderful person.

Reading Anti Dump's Machine, as posted by Pook, really inspired me.
The main idea I got was YOU TEST THE GIRLS, not the other way around.
If they like you or not IT'S NOT YOUR PROBLEM. You don't need to overcompensate for some MAJOR flaw by "acting". You just go out there, engage your target, find out if YOU like them and their company.
THAT'S the biggest factor in a DJ's career.

Do you feel you are a great catch just the way you are? Or you need to hide who you are behind a set of techniques?

Why we must be so unlovable that a guy like Ross Jeffries had so much success?

If you want to know more about this, check out this other post:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?p=1427266#post1427266

 

[jcap]

might as well become a salesmen and sell something and build your bank account, instead of trying to sell yourself like a hoe who keeps getting rejected by all women

lol @ 100 , 3 would do you

dumbasssss

 

[Aiken_Drum]

So, anyone has an opinion about the subject?

 

[Warrior74]

how about an easier way to find those three? What signs are there with those three that aren't there with teh rest? What separates the interactions with the three from the other 97? Was there more eye contact? Did she seem more open? Was there a 'vibe' that just 'felt right'? Why go thru all of that if we can try to just find the shortcut to the three?