"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Approach question

B-Real

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I have been practicing eye contact on the many HB's I encounter on my journey to class of the morning.

As I am walking I will usually pass the girls as they are closing in on me along the sidewalk. I will make direct eye contact and smile and at least 2 or 3 always seem to make good direct eye contact with me and usually smile back.

So here I am walking along the sidewalk with people in front of me, behind me, and along side of me and this girl smiles back at me.

Then what?? Do I say excuse me.. or hello...or compliment on her f**ck-me boots? I have once had this scenario occur and I told a girl that I like her boots and she said "thanks" and kept walking.

Its like I'm getting over the eye contact part but then it seems impossible for me to take it to the next level.

I guess it seems un-natural for me to keep the conversation going on a complete stranger.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Heyjose25points

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Hey bud, i think commenting on her boots is a good thing, like "Those must be comfortable." or even "Hi"
If they're not receptive to it, I would just cut my losses. But thats just me, maybe that's not persistent enough :-?
 

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I think it will seem un-natural, or at least for a while. It still seems un-natural for me.

I'd make a comment about the situation (the boots she's wearing's fine) but make a comment that's not completely predictable but also makes her laugh and sets her up for an easy response (rather than a yes/no response). For example, if she's wearing big fur boots, say "Those boots like warm, heading to Alaska after class?"
 

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So now whats the best way to continue the conversation? "So I'd like to talk to you longer but I gotta get to class so why don't you give me your number and I could call you sometime"

What about that. It doesn't seem to needy and it gets straight to the point. I guess at this time she could either say yes or no right?

So I've basically got nothing to loose.
 

Lust

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B-Real said:
I have been practicing eye contact on the many HB's I encounter on my journey to class of the morning.

As I am walking I will usually pass the girls as they are closing in on me along the sidewalk. I will make direct eye contact and smile and at least 2 or 3 always seem to make good direct eye contact with me and usually smile back.

So here I am walking along the sidewalk with people in front of me, behind me, and along side of me and this girl smiles back at me.

Then what?? Do I say excuse me.. or hello...or compliment on her f**ck-me boots? I have once had this scenario occur and I told a girl that I like her boots and she said "thanks" and kept walking.

Its like I'm getting over the eye contact part but then it seems impossible for me to take it to the next level.

I guess it seems un-natural for me to keep the conversation going on a complete stranger.
Turn up the C&F.

"Hey! Shy? Don't waste that good eye contact! Come over and talk to me!"
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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