Approach no matter what

[ted]

I am a relative newbie to the DJ world, but I would like to repeat what has probably been said here before.
This just happened so I'll use this as the example. I am at the library and I see a statuesque model type walk by. I am thinking that if I don't approach her I may miss out. So I take a few minutes to get into a good frame of mind(I know that you should approach as soon as the thought comes but like I said I'm a newbie) I said to her that I noticed her and thought she looks like someone I may like to meet. I talk for maybe a minute only to find out that she is a senior in high school. I am 32, so I told her it was nice meeting her.
Anyway the point is that if I didn't approach, the feelings I would get would be much worse than any negative reaction that could come from her. So approach all women you have an interest in, you never know until you ask!

 

[tonyw]

This is so true. Like you, I am also finding out that if you don't approach you will never know. And just because someone looks attractive to you, as you start to speak to her you may find that she is not your type of person romantically but you get on great and could be mates. You just don't know until you open your mouth and talk.

Happened to me Sunday night. Got talking to a hottie (maybe 7) and she asked for my email address mid-convo. At the end of the conversation she gave me her email address and I had not intention of offering mine, but she specifically asked for it so I gave it to her. Nothing romantic, we are both thinking about going travelling in Australia so we'll chat about it.

Plus I smiled at alot of hotties on Sat night (one was a definite 9) and she smiled back but she was painfully shy. I would not have known that unless I had spoken to her.

Like I say, you never know until you try. Get out there, have fun and learn all the time. I'm no DJ but I'm working on getting there - that's why I just talk to hotties as mates. In the future I'll start upping the stakes but it does for me now.

 

[Paranoid]

One of the toughest aspects of approaching *is* approaching.

The problem is that people new to the game seem to be afraid of approaching.You have got to understand that making approaches is far more easier than contemplating about them.

Your first few approaches are the most important.Once you have made even a single approach it should be easier to go about it later on.

My motto is "Anytime is the best time to approach."