"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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nabster

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Alright lads I'm a long time reader first time posting anything.
Basically I wanna start an approach diary just so I can see my own progress.
Feel free to comment on anything I'm saying.

Friday 22nd of August: Went to a pub where a mate of mine was playing music. Mainly just talked to my mates and skulled a few pints while listenin to the music. Saw a nurse I know but she'd left by the time I felt sufficiently inebriated to chat her up.
From there headed to a club thats open til late. Had a few more pints and then hit the dance floor with my mates sister and her friend( who's a bit of a geebag). I noticed there were a lot more girls up dancing than lads and got talkin to some bird (havn't a clue what I said to her) and just continued dancing away. This is where my memory fails me but I ended up dancing and kissing some hot drunk chick (copped a feel too:up: ) It was really loud in the club and to be honest I don't think I said a single word to her. By this stage my mates had left and the club was closing. I just walked off and left your one there with her mates.

Analysis: I'll start at the first place. Defo should have gone over to chat to the nurse. Shes Polish so I wouldn't have much to say to her (my Polish is how would I put it...****e) but I should have gone over and said hello.
At the second place as I've said the approach itself is a bit hazy but the 2 main things I want to take from it are:
1. Should have tried to get a bit further perhaps in some dark corner of the club. I think I probably could have.
2.Should have got her number or at least her name.

All in all I feel it was a good night and hope to have another one tonight.
Thanks for reading gentleman and as I've said feel free to comment as you see fit.:cool:
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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nabster

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Alright lads hows it goin?
Friday the 19th of September: Was in work again til late but me mate was playin music in that pub again so afterwards I headed down.
Only realised that day that it had a dance floor downstairs and so decided to give it a go. Hit the dance floor fairly late as I said but got dancing with an English girl called Cath and scored her (just a kiss and bit of a grope) but I did get a number(Improvement on last time):up:
Anyway txted her the next day and asked her out but she said she only had 3 hrs sleep and cudnt go out again but to look her up next time i'm over in England. So all in all I'm fairly happy with the approach and outcome. Should've maybe pushed for a ****-close but theres always next time.
 

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good stuff. One piece of advice, always go for broke when you are in foreign places. In my experience, once people know you won't be around for long things escalate quickly
 

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18th April.
It was my mates sisters birthday and there was a big gang of us in a pub in town. From there went on to a club and I started dancing wit this brazilian bird I'd been talkin to in the first pub. Started kissing her on the dance floor and was just generally making out wit her. Got a taxi back to my place and as I share a room wit my bro thought it best to keep things downstairs. things just went from there and I started fingering her. When she was nice and wet I took her clothes off (as well as my own) and rode her on the couch. Finished up the night wit a nice long *******. Afterwards I brought her back to my mates gaff where shes stayin.
 

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23rd April,
Well after asking the Brazilian one out (by phone call) I met up with her in town and went a pub where my mate was celebrating his birthday and my brother was there as well. Downed a couple of pints, started kissing her and then left the place at about 12. Got a taxi home and basically same as before started feelin her up and droppin the hand. She gave me another ******* before I ****ed her on the floor. Now heres the thing despite the fact thats shes reasonably attractive I just wasn't turned on by her. Maybe its the ease at which I got her home and banged her but it just wasnt a turn on to **** her. I just stopped riding her cos it got a bit boring (man I'm so gay) Went down on her wit the tongue which I'm pretty sure she enjoyed before bringing her home. All in all had an alright time but I'm just not attracted to her and don't plan to go out wit her again
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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8th May
I was at a ball in my college. Its a pretty big event like a music festival. Anyway got split up from the lads fairly quickly and headed into one of the tents and just started dancing wit a group of girls. There was a small pretty one wit dark hair and I just started grinding on her and kissing her. Got her name but didnt get a number. Later on went into the dance tent and pretty much same as before just started dancing wit some bird and making out wit her. I had plenty of oppertunity to get her number and ask her back to my place but just didnt bother. All in all I'm fairly happy wit kissing two different girls but defo shud have tried to bring the second one home. Ah well theres always next time :rockon:
 

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Alright boys hows it goin? Well last night(28th may) was the end of my exams so headed out into town wit the lads from college. I was in a night club and started dancing with and kissing a girl. From there went to the stairs , a kinda quiet, secluded area and kept kissing her. She actually made the first move and started rubbing my **** through my jocks. I reciprocated and ended up fingering her while she gave me a wank. I suggested we head back to her place but she said she didn't like bringin lads back to her gaff so I just took her number and left. I'm fairly happy with the progress made in a semi public area like there were people moved around past us and got the number so might call her and head out again.
 

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Hey man, nice going.

There's thing 1 thing though, in the last entry you said you made out with the girl and basically she gave you a "surprise". Yet she doesn't bring boys home? LOL she makes sex stuff in public but yet doesn't invite you in her PRIVATE place, looks kind of funny to me hehe.

Keep going mate lol
 
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