Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Approach Journal - NFL Cheerleader @ the gym

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Approach Journal - NFL Cheerleader @ the gym :cheer:

08/21/08

Intro: I've seen this HB 2-3 times in the gym for the 5:30am spin class, last time we were in the same room for a while and I had an opening when she was just chilling around, but I was still doing my sets and didn’t feel like stopping in the middle, of course she left right before I was done

Today: I noticed her in spin class again (I don’t take the class but my routine allows me to be able to be close enough to see if she is in the room). She got out of the class and walked by me while I was taking a break (intentionally).

Me: Hey you look really familiar to me for some reason
HB: Really?
Me: Yeah, where did you go to school…
HB: Tells me both her highschool and college
HB: I also have a sister named Kelley
Me: Oh! I actually went to the same college, when did you graduate
HB: <year>
Me: Really! I did too
HB: Well I was a dancer for football and basketball teams
Me: oh yeah? that could be it- I went to a lot of the games
HB: Were you in a fraternity?
Me: Naw, I wasn’t really into the whole greek thing
HB: Me either
HB: Well we’ll figure it out sometime, cya-

Analysis: Approach was great (I actually need to use this again!), conversation was pretty easy, however I lacked Kino and didn’t really close as well as I would have liked.

I figure I don’t want to **** where I eat, however I do need to step it up next time a bit and get a number- I definitely know that she goes to the TR 5:30 spin class


Ok, I need some tips. I did go home and google her name and it turns out that she is now an NFL cheerleader and she was dating a pro athlete. I still am confident, actually I feel like a baller knowing that I approached an NFL cheerleader, but in my mind she has a high value- which is competing against my own and I feel it will be hard to give a DHV
 
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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DonJoseCantosie

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Good work definitely finding a NFL Cheerleader and. But don't give her any value. Just because she's a cheerleader and super fine doesn't mean she got value. There are quite afew women who got nothing but their looks to show for themselves...even then, they still may suck in bed. No woman is above us on this earth, remember that. I'd say next time, def be direct and after the class, do an insta-date with her. If she says that she was gonna go home(Just a lil resistence), tell her that she can do it anytime and that now is the best time and just flat out tell her "C'mon, lets go over there now.:)" Leading is def crucial :)
good luck
 

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Thanks! Yeah, I need to get my head straight.

Actually, I think if she brings up cheerleading I'll neg her and be like, ohhh yeah I remember you said that's what you majored in in college.

As far as an insta-date goes, I'm not sure how that will work since she just finished a 45 minute aerobic class and probably wants nothing more than to hit the showers, however I think I could tell her to give me her number so we could grab a coffee later.

What do you think?
 

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Definitely still go for the insta-date. She can always shower afterward. Is there is cafe' near by? :) You should go for the number if she absolutely can't.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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DrD77 said:
you should take a shower with her
The Best advice in here :crackup:

Whats he gonna say? "Listen um,... would you join me for a shower sometime?" lol
 

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In2theGame said:
The Best advice in here :crackup:

Whats he gonna say? "Listen um,... would you join me for a shower sometime?" lol
That would be one heck of an instadate :up:
 

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DonJoseCantosie said:
Definitely still go for the insta-date. She can always shower afterward. Is there is cafe' near by? :) You should go for the number if she absolutely can't.
Yeah there is a starbucks right down the street. I'm just struggling to keep in mind that I'm a 'bear with claws and big fuggin teeth'. I want this one so badly

k, here is how I'd like to play it in the ideal world:

...I'll call her over after her class

Me: Hey <name>
HB: Hey
Me: How was your weekend...
HB: ...
Me: Hey, its been fun talking with you but I want to wrap up my workout.
HB: Ok, take care-
Me: Hey, put your number in my phone and we'll continue this over coffee when I'm done
HB: Naw, let's just go and take a shower together :D
 

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In2theGame said:
The Best advice in here :crackup:

Whats he gonna say? "Listen um,... would you join me for a shower sometime?" lol
Shower and protein shake= MONEY!
 

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You did nothing at all... took no risks besides making very small talk... you need to show interest and make her interested and give her a reason to choose you over all the million dollar jocks and 85 year old viagra users she has on speed dial....

Good luck!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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DonGorgon said:
You did nothing at all... took no risks besides making very small talk... you need to show interest and make her interested and give her a reason to choose you over all the million dollar jocks and 85 year old viagra users she has on speed dial....

Good luck!

You rock:rockon:

Thank you for the kick in the pants that I deserved :box:
 
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