"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I have been dressing extremely well lately (I am also pretty good looking) and I noticed a lot of women paying attention to me. Some of them will will hold eye contact and give this half smile without me having to do anything.

The problem is when I do approach them it is only marginally better than if I approached women randomly. An example is this girl blew me out completely at the mall when 1 minute ago she was staring at me intently. A couple of girls will even try to catch my eye but it is not leading to anything.

I thought that since they already gave me some sign of interest it should make things go more smoothly but it does not in reality. What am I doing wrong and how do I fix it?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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trainee said:
I have been dressing extremely well lately (I am also pretty good looking) and I noticed a lot of women paying attention to me. Some of them will will hold eye contact and give this half smile without me having to do anything.QUOTE]
You are doing something, you're holding eye contact.

Just because a girl makes eye contact with you doesn't mean she's interested. She may just be testing her own sexual power ("will guys give me the eye?"). So she plays this little game. On the other hand, it doesn't mean she isn't interested, either.

As for how to fix it, I think you just need more practice. As you become more comfortable you'll be more smooth and you'll learn what works.
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My guess is you're coming off as needy when you approach them.

If you look awesome, but don't have DIRECTION in the conversation with the girl, why would she want to talk to you? Are you trying to chit-chat with her? Or are you going up, introducing yourself, and getting to the point of the conversation, which is probably something along the lines of "I was drawn to you because of _____ (whatever drew you to her), and I want to get to know you, either now or soon."

Kudos that you know enough about fashion to look good, but now you need to play the role of whatever you're dressing like.
 
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