"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ManiacJack

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Anybody know of any ways to build up your confidence to approaching? I've been doing it for a while, but I still get nervous? Anybody got any tips that can help me boost my confidence in this field. Once I get a conversation started I can usually end up opening them up, but it's just the whole approach thing.

Cheers
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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when you first start it, everything is new to you. and you're scared as hell. after a while, you're not in the unknown realm anymore, and it gets easier although you're still afraid. you must keep it up long enough, until the day that you really KNOW what you're doing when approaching an HB9, then its easy and its even fun. approaching is like anything else, like swimming, skiing, riding a bike, etc. if you get to a point that you really know you can manage any situation, that you're skilled enough to actually be able to charm most of the girls you want, then what should you really be afraid of? even if she didn't give you her #, most of the times you're absolutely certain that she liked you, and she might have her own reasons not to give you #. but you're certain that you did great. just think about it, what are you afraid of now? isn't it that you're afraid of saying the wrong thing and acting in the wrong way and she may get p!ssed at you?
an HB on the street is like a dangerous device that you just don't know how to work with. and your fear stays with you till the day that you realy know how to use the device to your own good, be it getting laid or creating love!
you can't be just confident. confidence comes with knowledge and experience and skill.
 

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ManiacJack said:
Once I get a conversation started I can usually end up opening them up, but it's just the whole approach thing.


Have you ever been successful opening them up after approaching them while not confident? So to speak, you are in great fear of approaching, you're confidence levels for approaching are so so low, and somehow you get a conversation started, and then you open her up, maybe get an e-mail and a phone number and are able to get in touch with her after several days, arrange to hang out together. YES or NO?
 
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