"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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kelv

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Today I let another girl slip away from my hands....I looked at her when she was buying pastries and later she walked out of the shop and waited at the bus stop. She seems to have notice me looking at her and somehow she seems to shift herself in my direct line of sight. And all this while, I still couldnt brace up the courage to go talk to her!!!
I was talking to myself...come on man....u can do it. I virtually stood there for like 20mins struggling with myself until her bus came and she boarded it. Felt like kicking myself in the nuts.
I have these kinds of situations in the past whereby the girl seems to come within my proximity or even eyeing me, yet I still cant get enough courage to chat them up. Please, can anyone help me?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Rethnu

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Just be a man about it and do it, you'll fail the first few times, as like everything else it's a matter a practice.
And maybe you should start at easier locations, where women expect to be approached, makes it easier for the beginning IMHO.
 

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women will not make your life better

go for balls man! youth is the time for balls not for thinking. when you are old, then you can think.

but, in contrast, I give you brain food to think about. when you are old... would you rather say to yourself, I got shot down but I had balls, or, I wish I had balls.
 

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The longer you think about approaching the harder it is going to get. Just do it before you have a chance to think about it.
 
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