"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Approach Anxiety video.

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Not too long ago I was talking about approach anxiety, and that I would constantly freeze up. Anyways, I found a video on youtube, that seems to be helping. Everyone try it out, it seems a little stupid at first, but it really works.

http://youtube.com/watch?v=UlIrvu78NO0
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I tried this stuff on myself once, while reading the manual this guy seems to have gotten the technique from. I'm skeptical, but people seem to use it, Interceptor has recommended it. It seems like it's almost too easy. But I'm up for trying this again. :cool:
 

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Pathetic, no ammount of tapping can account for actually just approaching.
 

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I could see it working, but are you supposed to do this before every girl you approach? :crackup:

What if a guy is in a club and is approaching several women throughout the night. Does he go hide in the bathroom every time he needs to tap. Maybe he starts tapping something else. :nono:

1. repetition
2. not making your target the first approach you make
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Just do it before going to the club, obvioudly not everytime you approach a girl .lol
 

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Stéphane said:
Just do it before going to the club, obvioudly not everytime you approach a girl .lol
I was joking :crazy:
 

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If you believe in Accupressure points, then it will make sense .
If you believe that we retain emotional trauma/negative memories in our bodies, and in our 'electrical circuitry", then you will find it useful.
The point of tapping for AA is to do it away from the environment in which you wish to perform.

It is about resolving your inner game issues BEFORE the 'game'.
If you've gone deep enough to the heart of the isse, then one maybe two rounds of tapping releases those 'inner demons' that have stayed with you so long.

Many people feel their anxieties/stress/concerns/worries in their bodies.
EFT tapping helps release that 'electrical charge" from your body.
 

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demonic said:
Pathetic, no ammount of tapping can account for actually just approaching.
I see that your many hours of experience with EFT has not netted you the results you wanted?

Could you tell me how you did your routine?
maybe I can help you.
 

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I don't like that approach. How about leaning to handle anxiety instead. Feel the anxiety and still move forward.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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regular_guy said:
I don't like that approach. How about leaning to handle anxiety instead. Feel the anxiety and still move forward.
Because this is one way to get rid of physiological manifestation of Anxiety.
Soome guys just don't know what to do with anxiety and how to deal with it.
By using EFT one can simultaneously adress phsyiological concerns as well as the psychological.
You can build psychological/emotional tools and get rid of the manifestationin your body.

bascially, there are people who have phobias, right?

OK, you can put a person that has claustrophobia inside an elevator, and they will not be cured.
You can talk to them about it, and tell them to go through it, repeatedly, but often times, their fear and anxiety will actually increase.


You can try that approach for some people for 10 or 15 YEARS, and they still WILL NOT be cured of it.

So, like I say, sometimes we make an over simplification of a complex issue, and it turns out is not a real practical solution anyway.
 

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Interceptor said:
OK, you can put a person that has claustrophobia inside an elevator, and they will not be cured.
You can talk to them about it, and tell them to go through it, repeatedly, but often times, their fear and anxiety will actually increase.
There was a girl at work and she was afraid of dogs. We had a dog at work and every day I would try to get her to pet the dog, she could barely touch it. At one point I was able to put the dog in her lap and she was still freaked out. It got really frustrating. Basically, I tried to help this girl get over her fear of dogs but that's not my thing I guess. :D

So just using "exposure therapy" doesn't really work.

Personally I don't see the problem in adding new tools. You can get all freaked out by just thinking of something, remembering something, but you're not actually there. But just imagining the scenario is enough to cause anxiety. Your brain thinks it's real whether you're in the situation or not. Something like this seems to work for lots and lots of people. I'll see what I end up getting out of it.
 

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It's been prove that thinking about working out actually does help build muscle so maybe this can too, maybe.
 

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krazyboy99 said:
systematic desensitization is a scientifically proven way to get rid of phobias
For some people, yes.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Tookie said:
It's been prove that thinking about working out actually does help build muscle so maybe this can too, maybe.
Is that really true? I'm not doubting it, giganticism is caused by the mind telling the body to keep on growing and growing without stop, but this has slipped me.
 

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I have tried this before and in my opinion it cannot work for approach anxiety. I have found however it is really good for attenuating some of the powerful negative emotions from painful/embarrassing memories.
 

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Alot of the PUA video tutorials encourage, but most of the time in a different way then intended.

I personally think of myself as a lot better looking than these guys, and with potentially more to offer to a women.

So I figure if these guys can do it, I'm sure I can too.
 
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