"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
approach anxiety(street approach)
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
come on, what the hell are you looking for?
the longer you sit on your ass and read books, the longer you wait until you achieve success. just go out and start asking for the time!!!!
As you pass people try to look them in the face, if not the eye and just say "hi". It will get easier the more you do it. Try to get yourself in a good mood, think about things that truly make you happy. Smiling and saying "hi" you'd be surprised at how many people will be friendly back.
Once you get comfortable with that, start varying it "hi", "hello", "how's it going", "nice day", "good morning"
As you get comfortable looking at other people and saying something try to make small talk with those you have to interact with, like sales cashiers.
If you absolutely can't get over your fear than you might want to ask your doctor. There are anti-anxiety drugs. Just be mindful that you don't want to want to depend on them. Just enough to get you over the hump.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
gasoline said:I can not even ask a woman for the time on the street
Be very nervous. It's very difficult to talk to a woman.
What they have between their legs is the most amazing thing in the world that people kill for.
MooseGod
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Seriously though, pvssy is pvssy. Are you ever nervous after you poked a chick? Hell no, you want her to shut her trap and let you get on with your day.
Don't expect an outcome. Don't tell yourself "I've got to talk to this chick and get her number or I'm a failure." Because you will fail.
Just learn to bullsh!t with people. Not bullsh!t as in being fake or trying to pull something on them, but just learn how to carry on a conversation with strangers. You'll find that some people you click with, and some you don't. And guess what, as crazy as they may be, women are people too.
Once you get to that point, you can walk up to a girl and make some sort of relevant comment about damn near anything, and if she seems receptive, roll with it. If not, forget it.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
yes i think there is. i dont understand what do you mean but there is a kind of semi-forestial-avenue for walking and there are lots of hot babes there. I will go there with my friend. I have never try it, Great idea!.
getting drugs is a good idea too
by the way we don't say "hi" we say "salam". so it's easier for me to start with "nice day" .. lol
I wish it to happen
I even have a fear of looking nervous
but i'll try saying hi to girls, even though they will think i'm insane, i think it has no physical consequences
because here, trying to start a conversation with a ***** girl will bring you a fine slap in the face .. lol
let me give you a little history.
back in the dark ages, when women seemed like witches that were just looking for an excuse to turn me into a bug and step on me (and yes, I'm not exaggerating, this is how I thought) I was determined, somehow, to get over my approach anxiety.
so I started simple - by asking for the time.
This took me several failed attempts, but I started with people I had no anxiety around (very old women basically) and moved up. It actually took me several days to work up the balls to ask an attractive woman for the time.
AFC indeed.
i kept doing this, and every day, even if i didn't want to do it, i went out and approached at least five people for the time.
here's what happened. it got easy to do. asking for the time, and then thanking them and walking away, got easy.
and guess what that did to me? it made me bored. i didn't want to do it anymore because it was boring. i had mastered going up to a woman and asking for the time.
so actually, i didn't even mean to do this, but one day i went up to a pretty girl and said "Hi! How are you?" Despite the fact that I suddenly realized I had gone off script and my fear started jumping up, she smiled and said "Good. How are you?"
Holy ****. I just opened a woman. And I started to talk to her, what about I don't remember, probably the fact that I had been in the library. We talked about school, books, i dunno what else.
The point is, I mastered my AA bit by bit. With a set script I was able to master walking up to a pretty girl. Then, once this was solidly in place, out of sheer boredom I began expanding what I said.
Also, things that sound easy on the forum, like walking up to a girl, are much more difficult in person. So even if something sounds easy, don't write it off until you can do it without thinking.
So go! Go get some times!!!!
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Randallpink83
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Like seriously, if you REALLY really want this, then you would be doing it already.
Its going to suck in the beginning.. You're going to be lame as fvck. Embarrass the hell out of yourself. Girls are going to say mean things. Its gonna hurt, a lot (if you hit it hard enough, and you should).
But with every failure success is on its way. It will become fun, REALLY fun. Success is just right around the corner! Do you want it bad enough, Get out there and Mush mush mush!!! We cant do it for you, you just got to want it.
Do what it takes to make you approach.. Get looney, go secretly insane for alittle... Jump around like an animal to get yourself "out of your head".. do something crazy.. be creepy at first hahahaha... Totally blow yourself away... Act like you are somebody else... Slap yourself in the face as hard as possible then while you stigning in pain run up to a girl "HEYYYYYY!! Do i have someting in my teeth?"
Do whatever it takes bro.... want it!
) because her birthday is on the 31 so I was looking for some jewelry and talked to everyone and had fun! I flirted with them and got other girls to help me pick one out for her...all in all it was a very easy atmosphere and I had fun it even go so relaxed that the receptionist that was helping me (Cuz was there flirting with other girl) that she was making fun of this gay guy telling me "Hey he walks like a guy girl right," to which I reply "jeez your mean!" see its very easy just relax and have fun....sorry for rambling lol.MooseGod
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Oops, just noticed you're in Iran...I have no idea in that case...gasoline said:it's not as easy as you say because in our country you have lots of fears when you approch a girl for the sake of picking her up
i mean fvcking c0ckblockers and fvckin cops and many other
Are women even allowed out in public by themselves there? Forgive my ignorance...
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.