ChristopherColumbus
Master Don Juan
There is approach anxiety, and then there is approach anxiety.
In the first, there is a fear to approach women... indeed, out of this distancing and detaching fear, it is called 'approach' as if talking to a women were not the most natural thing to do in life. A man is in his head, and has to re-educate himself into the natural rhythms of life. Perhaps fear and anxiety are the curse of our age.
And then there is the other sort. A man now, out of a fear that he is [or will be] without woman, approaches them. Where in the first, approach anxiety hinders him from approaching, in the second it compels him to approach. The approach is strained not natural... it is approach for approaches sake, and so it is fake. More often than not, it is a waste of time.
'Approach' is really something artificial, and is perhaps only relevant to those that have approach anxiety in the first case. Once one has overcome the actual fear of 'approaching', meeting women should take on a way more calm and natural style. Indeed, one may enter a café without a second thought for meeting women, for you may have a book to read, or a post to post, or may just not be in the mood. Sa la vie.
In the first, there is a fear to approach women... indeed, out of this distancing and detaching fear, it is called 'approach' as if talking to a women were not the most natural thing to do in life. A man is in his head, and has to re-educate himself into the natural rhythms of life. Perhaps fear and anxiety are the curse of our age.
And then there is the other sort. A man now, out of a fear that he is [or will be] without woman, approaches them. Where in the first, approach anxiety hinders him from approaching, in the second it compels him to approach. The approach is strained not natural... it is approach for approaches sake, and so it is fake. More often than not, it is a waste of time.
'Approach' is really something artificial, and is perhaps only relevant to those that have approach anxiety in the first case. Once one has overcome the actual fear of 'approaching', meeting women should take on a way more calm and natural style. Indeed, one may enter a café without a second thought for meeting women, for you may have a book to read, or a post to post, or may just not be in the mood. Sa la vie.