Approach Anxiety Program

[Escalator690]

Before anything else, AA is real and no amount of feel good BS like:
-Just go talk to loads of girls and it will disappear
-its all in my head. Have good inner game and it will disappear
-go for the kill immediately(tried it once and my body's heart rate, temp, and BP rose up when I complimented a girl on her hair)

Will ever eliminate it. Baby steps and exposure therapy is the best solution.

I'm doing GLL's Approach Anxiety Program week2. Currently on day 14 for the past 2 months. Basically day 14 is give 20 girls a high five. I can basically do it at work but that doesn't count since I know the people there. When out at work, I freeze up and get scared ****less. In total I've like given high fives to 5 female strangers.

I don't know where else to ask for help since GLL's site is down. Really need your help on this. Also again please don't give the usual approach anxiety isn't real, stop being a ***** go for the kill. I want to improve my chances with women and head first face all my issues and insecurities. Please help me.guys

 

[Serenity]

The only difference I see between anxiety and excitement is the mental perspective on it. The physical symptoms are pretty much the same. I used to have AA and social anxiety in general, challenging myself (basically exposure therapy) is just a part of it, but not the entire solution. For me the solution was to stop fighting anxiety, to stop avoiding the feeling, to stop thinking it was something I had to get rid of. Instead I turned around and embraced it, accepted and basically started chasing it.

That's how you really challenge anxiety, when your curiosity wants to see just how anxious (excited really) you can make yourself. Only if you have this mindset will your anxiety dissipate over time as you do it more. Think of adrenaline junkies, they're chasing the same high, just challenging a different fear. Since they embrace their fear they'll have to do increasingly more extreme stunts to reach the same high as their tolerance grows.

I would go into situations I knew would spike my anxiety, I would take in the feeling and enjoy it instead of trying to resist or avoid. Of course my old conditioning of freezing up and such didn't go away immediately, but I would remind myself of my mission, that the physical symptoms are just physical and my mind is free to direct my body to go do it anyways. It's what I wanted after all, to head first face it.

It's just a feeling, you don't have to obey it's desires. At first you just go in spite of the fear, but you might learn to like it and at that point it becomes a source of motivation to want to take action. You chase the tingles.

I barely ever feel this way anymore, I almost envy you. I've done it all and it's nothing new. The "do it enough and it goes away" is true, but when you finally get to that point it's actually a bit disappointing...

 

[Escalator690]

For me the solution was to stop fighting anxiety, to stop avoiding the feeling, to stop thinking it was something I had to get rid of. Instead I turned around and embraced it, accepted and basically started chasing it.

I feel this. There were times i just didnt care and went in regardless of my anxiety

 

[Serenity]

I feel this. There were times i just didnt care and went in regardless of my anxiety

Then I suggest you keep doing that.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Prep ahead. Run drills in your head. Say you’re going to a grocery store. You see an attractive woman pushing her cart. How would you approach her? Practice’till it'second nature. If you are/were in the military. You probably did drills like this.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Before anything else, AA is real and no amount of feel good BS like:
-Just go talk to loads of girls and it will disappear
-its all in my head. Have good inner game and it will disappear
-go for the kill immediately(tried it once and my body's heart rate, temp, and BP rose up when I complimented a girl on her hair)

Will ever eliminate it. Baby steps and exposure therapy is the best solution.

I'm doing GLL's Approach Anxiety Program week2. Currently on day 14 for the past 2 months. Basically day 14 is give 20 girls a high five. I can basically do it at work but that doesn't count since I know the people there. When out at work, I freeze up and get scared ****less. In total I've like given high fives to 5 female strangers.

I don't know where else to ask for help since GLL's site is down. Really need your help on this. Also again please don't give the usual approach anxiety isn't real, stop being a ***** go for the kill. I want to improve my chances with women and head first face all my issues and insecurities. Please help me.guys

It's not rocket science. Approach. Cut the ****. Go get girls. Not boomer bods. Not hypergamy rants. Actually get girls.

You want to chain gun pickup. Sever that inner *****. Every set is PRACTICE. Every girl no matter how bad is a broken rubber and cheese burger away from expired.

Your competing for less than 1%. Your sifting through NPCS. Look up your yr book class of and find hottest girls in 2023. Milk has gone bad. Get to it.

 

[Escalator690]

Prep ahead. Run drills in your head. Say you’re going to a grocery store. You see an attractive woman pushing her cart. How would you approach her? Practice’till it'second nature. If you are/were in the military. You probably did drills like this.

Bro stop

 

[Escalator690]

His Approach is based on Exposure Therapy, you basically dont need to do anything 1:1 listed on there. But I like the idea, it should be pinned in this forum for those who struggle to Approach and start a conversation with woman or in general with People.

They key is to challenge yourself and slowly increase it. So it doesn't have to be a High-five instead replace it with something else if you want to. It could be a social touch, while talking you just tap the Person you wanna talk to.

If you still want to go for the High-five, do it in a more social acceptable way like this:

Like: Hey, do you know where this Restaurant (Place) is at?
She: Let me see... Yes you go this and this way...
You: So this and this way right?
She: Right!
You: You are amazing, thanks - (with a High-five)

Will try this. Fr i freeze up doing this because women have this weird look about me. Really hard to not give a ****