"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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approach anxiety.. kinda.. creepy vibe

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pete101

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i think i kind of have approach anxiety although it never stops me from actually approaching.. just delays it.. this problem leads me to linger a bit before i make a move which i think creeps them out.

how do i avoid being creepy if i suffer from this kind of approach anxiety?

usually i need a few seconds to steady myself and mentally prepare to approach but then i linger and that creeps them out then i approach and it goes south from there. i haven't been able to shake this for years.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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i'm usually terrible at approaching unless i've had a drink. the other day i went into a random bar to use their toilet and ended up buying a drink (i was already pretty hammered).

whilst outside smoking a cigarette i got talking to a girl. i just struck up conversation with her which is something i would never do whilst sober.

it was perfectly natural. i was talking about how i'd never seen this bar before etc and the converstion flowed onto what she did for a living and how tall she was. we compared heights and even though she was about the same height as me (5'11) she insisted she was taller which made for some fun.

as she left i asked her, her name, she said Amelia. i didnt push for her number because the vibe i got was she wasn't interested as she didnt ask me my name.

luckily for me i don't appear drunk when i've been drinking, just ultra sociable. i would like to be able to do this sober.
 
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hey man its ok to be nervous! that is your thousands of years of proper evolution telling you to be careful.

but look, you need to get over it.

and, the only way to get over it is to practice practice until your mind and soul realizes that you will not be crushed by some hulking ogre dude with a rock if you fail.

youre in a beautiful time right now, the time when you still get nervous to approach women. enjoy this time, its really exciting. youll be so happy when you succeed, and be able to learn so much from when you dont.

just keep practicing and it will come to you
 
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