"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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chocococonut

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Has anyone ever tried quitting alcohol for an extended period of time and noticed improvements in approaching women? such as, less anxiety, more confidence..?

i know that alcohol temporariliy reduces anxiety and inhibitions, but in the long-run, it causes more anxiety than it resolves.

i think a way to help improve approach anxiety and anxiety in general is to quit alcohol. what are your reports or first-hand experiences or observations with approach anxiety with nonalcoholics ?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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chocococonut said:
Has anyone ever tried quitting alcohol for an extended period of time and noticed improvements in approaching women? such as, less anxiety, more confidence..?

i know that alcohol temporariliy reduces anxiety and inhibitions, but in the long-run, it causes more anxiety than it resolves.

i think a way to help improve approach anxiety and anxiety in general is to quit alcohol. what are your reports or first-hand experiences or observations with approach anxiety with nonalcoholics ?
Excessive consumption of alcohol is by no means a good thing but I don't see how it could cause long-term anxiety. How much are you drinking anyway?
 

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PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
Nope. Best thing you can do is no fap as long as possible prior to going out
Read this a few times on here. What's the science behind it? Is it just about retaining your masculine energy while also keeping you hungry and motivated to find a femme to expend it on?
 
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It depends on how old you are. Loosen up with alcohol and pop an Extenze if you think you have a good chance of getting laid.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Your focus is better and mind is sharper once you quit. I did it after reading about how alcohol affects your frontal lobe. You need it for your IQ (ability to retain and apply knowledge). Doctor's say that one beer will affect the frontal lobe for about 2 weeks. I quit after 5 1/2 years of drinking without ever missing a day. It was tough, just like anything else, but you put your mind to it and do it. I don't know about being more confident...I didn't give a sh*t about too many things before and still don't, but I see my interaction with people has improved. I feel like my replies to what people say are more intelligent than before and come out effortless. Quit if you can. It's much better.
Just sayin'....
 

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El Suave said:
Your focus is better and mind is sharper once you quit. I did it after reading about how alcohol affects your frontal lobe. You need it for your IQ (ability to retain and apply knowledge). Doctor's say that one beer will affect the frontal lobe for about 2 weeks. I quit after 5 1/2 years of drinking without ever missing a day. It was tough, just like anything else, but you put your mind to it and do it. I don't know about being more confident...I didn't give a sh*t about too many things before and still don't, but I see my interaction with people has improved. I feel like my replies to what people say are more intelligent than before and come out effortless. Quit if you can. It's much better.
Just sayin'....

I can see where it might work. 99% of the times I've gotten a phone # is when I'm tuned up on the booze. Back in the day I didn't know it was possible to have sex with a girl unless I met her at a club or a bar and had a one night stand. haha. It was just the norm back then for me. With alcohol and the right atmosphere I feel like I'm in the zone so to say.... but really the alcohol is a crutch. I know this. That's probably why my day game is so bad.....lots of missed opportunities.

Also, the effects of alcohol does increase anxiety....once you stop drinking. That is a proven fact, but once it's out of your system you should be good to go.
 

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I quit drinking a few months ago. Much sharper. Going out and not drinking takes a bit of willpower, but look at it this way....They are doing the drinking for you. And if you meet a sober girl you won't seem like an idiot.

Only thing is, drunk/buzzed people are freaking annoying if you are sober. They all think they are hilarious and clever and they aren't. Now I know why bartenders are in moods half the time.

Seriously, work out before you go out. It will relax you and give you confidence.
 

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you know what a win/win is? when girls buy you drinks in the hopes you get drunk and they can take advantage of you. win.....win.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Thats because alcohol causes an addiction, just like video gaming/watching p0rn/smoking. If you quit it, you will feel much better after a few weeks.
 

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chocococonut said:
Has anyone ever tried quitting alcohol for an extended period of time...
Yes.

chocococonut said:
...and noticed improvements in approaching women? such as, less anxiety, more confidence..?
No. What I noticed was that I was enormously less irritable. After a couple of months I noticed more strength / less tiredness and a return of my old self in terms of mental sharpness.

I get tons more sex now than I ever did when I was young. Approach anxiety is the same thing as youthful self-doubt. You grow out of it.
 
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